For those of you sharing this journey with me, here at "Helping Build Bridges Across"
Thank you for being here. My "Thank You" is that you can be in a number of places, and taking a moment with me, is appreciated. The Focus, the intent that most of you are aware of is "Making Gratitude Contagious". Please Listen, something will always attempt and in some cases achieve, grabbing our attention, creating hours upon hours, focused in some cases on “nonsense”. My heart is to live Transparently, it doesn’t mean every question asked of me will be answered, in some cases, it may be a response of “I’m not at liberty to speak about that”, which translates, I haven’t given time or thought to it and I don’t want to just reply out of the need to just respond. It also means that every story is not to be shared, because it includes many others, and it is not fair, to decide for them "by sharing". I AM Offended. . . Recently, it was shared with me that someone was offended, years ago, it seemed because they were not acknowledged. In this case, it was a moment of being in the same shopping mall, and the person shared they looked right at me and I didn’t seem to acknowledge them. Notice, I used the word “years”, let us for a moment consider that time frame. A Year = 365 days Noting, that the person who shared this, mentioned this had happened “a few years ago”. 365 days multiplied by 3 = 1095 days wasted on being offended, instead of sending a text, making a phone call, if it was that important to address; Time Robber I AM Offended. . .
For the record, I don’t remember seeing anyone that I purposely “did not acknowledge”, it is not in my character, not because I’m some great, in control person, it is just not a place that I wrestle with. I have challenges like all of us, this is just not one of them.
I'm the person who will speak to anyone, and even if “years ago” some petty, nonsense reasons that an association went awry, traveling the road now, arriving “to this date” of this post, those kinds of reasons no longer hold weight. Life is too precious and time is too short, to invest so much into “an assumption”, to live burdened, questioning “why” someone is offended, does not quite equate in my mind, it does not make sense to me. I refuse to give it any space, any time, and any investment. My heart does not want to be robbed of Time. We often live as if, tomorrow is a guarantee filled with the same options in our lives “this day”. The appearance presented, is that we have plenty of time to set things straight, to apologize, or get back on track with a person. Life has a funny way of providing the appearance of what “a lifetime means”. . .The amount of time that a “lifetime” is measured by?! In Closing, If I could give anything to anyone from this share, it would be to not allow "nonsense" to set a trap for your journey. To not allow the small or in some cases the large things to become your anchor, your daily focus, your chain attached to your ankle. Don’t allow life to set a trap of offense, so when, “not if”, things change, you will not be left in that location called “Regret”. The Location called "Regret", it is a real trap when you live "offended". I AM Offended. . .
Consider, there are numerous reasons a person can be distracted, could walk right past you and not speak. It is numerous reasons, why someone didn’t return a call the same day or attend an event.
There are many stories behind a Smile Someone received some news that changed their life in an instant Some are battling circumstances “daily” that they never share out loud Some are reassessing the season of life they are currently in Some just received news about a loved one or a dear friend Some are weighted by obligations and or what now The list is endless. . . The Point, is instead of living “offended” do what is needed to have Peace “in your heart”. If it is something that can be addressed by a conversation, then have the conversation with the intent, “to not escalate the issue” but instead the hope to find a resolution. Reside that Peace will be your approach, and even if it means there is no solution, or idea outcome. Your journey, your intent remains that you did what was needed to have “Peace” for your heart, and then like all of us, we have to just continue forward. I AM Offended…
I AM Offended…
I have a list of things that I could reference that have been said, or done, or behavior that appeared odd to me, in the moment. Time, experience, things that matter have taught me to love them anyway. We may not share the same view, the same belief, or have had the same experiences, or travel the same road forward, but for "some" we have decided. We "WILL NOT" Live Being Offended.
Are You Offended?!
Is there a work you need to do, to find your Peace, to take hold of the days that are “gifted” to you?! ~ Questions for only your heart to Answer ~
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Like a Book...
Like a Book...
For me sharing in this way, doesn't make me sad, maybe it comes from the road traveled to this date, that has taught me how precious "life" is, and teaches me how to be very grateful to "be aware of that fact". Awareness determines my words, my actions, and my decisions "daily". Life is a gift, and each new day my intent is to not take that for granted. I continue forward with awareness of that, including from numerous examples along my life's journey. I live daily "exercising" in Gratitude, knowing that my book does have a closing chapter too. I know firsthand and choose to share that living with "Gratitude" does and will "rob regret". This is a Heart Knows firsthand, that exercising Gratitude, being appreciative allowed me to Rob Regret. To know more, to learn more that is found under "Living In My Truth" My shares are not about being easy, and not focused on being hard either. Instead, for me I'm driven in living "fulfilled" and that includes taking what I've walked through and sharing that "as a perspective". I don't provide answers, like you I'm walking life's journey daily, I share my perspective from what I have experienced and my thoughts on that. My heart is that you take what can be an asset for this day, to equip for tomorrow and continue forward. My purpose, my focus is to continually seek daily a relationship with my Creator, not centered on rituals of a religion. I want to know God more and My intent is to live loving "this day" and having "awareness" of a hopeful tomorrow with an opportunity to continue in my intent. Sharing love with all those who surround me and for those I encounter and including this village where I share. Faith in God, has been my leaning board, it has been my refuge, and it has not ever been just about a Religion, it is about a "Relationship" with the Potter who created this Clay. My help is in Him and this I clearly know. The comfort in that, is that I did not create myself, so who would better know me, who understands my heart when it's difficult to share it, who knows the road before and who understands the road behind. God is my comfort for that and numerous more reasons. More than words, it is an experience, like any relationship that grows, or you trust in, that is developed from experiences, from being familiar. This is the walk I've found, not by "just" what I've read but by my "direct" experiences. In fact, I sum it up as "I'm living" on what I'm prepared for my book to close on. That means something to me, it allows me to determine the investment into what surrounds me or to what I allow to grab my attention. It allows me to determine the invitations that I choose to accept or not, of drama or peace. My choice. Always a choice. My book has a "Hopeful Heart" for many more chapters, that are lived full on the Grace that My Creator has taught me belongs to me, to my journey. Again, this is not a Share of "being easy". I define it as "an exercise" of Gratitude daily. I recognize and understand completely, to know something and to possess something is two very different things. I choose daily on where to place my focus, it is a work, it is an exercised decided by continual "choices" daily. Like a Book... My invitation to "YOU", is to "find" what can be an asset for "this day" and for the "Hopeful Road Before You". Exercise your Focus on those areas that bring you Peace, that allow you to set aside those areas that you can't change in the moment, so why carry that worry and anxiety "all day". In calmness, peace within, it allows you to consider options on what needs to be done, it allows you in the midst of that have peace in your home. This is an exercise, words are not magic and thinking great thoughts one time doesn't cover the whole week. It is a "daily" work, a focus on what the day before you will be. It is your intent and in most cases, that intent will determine your words and your actions. The intent of this Share, and all shares really, is to just "say it" and to allow you to decide what can be an asset for you, to decide what you can do with it and to find the part that Inspires you, Encourages You, or just simply provides "A Hug" to you. My Faith, this Village is centered on "Love", my intent is not to decide who you are or what you should be. My intent was, is and always will be "Making Gratitude Contagious" and operating in Love. Helping Build Bridges Across is a village that allows conversation, that allows us to respectfully hear each other, and knowing it is okay to agree to disagree. This village has a buffet table and the heart of it, is to take what can be an asset for your heart and "continue forward". The road behind me is filled with so many memories, like a book, chapters of my life filled with joyful moments, tearful moments, hopeful moments, moments where I didn't how things would turn out if not for the Grace of God in my life, celebrations of "new" and challenging places to "press" through. Including those places of a chapter closed. Like a Book...
I'm very grateful for anything you do.
Thank you for being here and for sharing. Hugs, Donyale
"Making Gratitude Contagious" was, is and always will be the intent
Who Has the Golden Ticket?!
We all have our sketch book of what the road behind has taught us, the day that we have "for some" is a gift, and the road before us offers "hope".
For me, every single day is a choice, it is an exercise of Gratitude... In the Midst Of... My favorite words is that "No One Said Easy", to share that my daily exercise is Gratitude for some implies, a New Day to be Grateful and to carry on. Words that appear "simple". Yes, Simple to say, Simple to share, but an exercise, an exercise, a pressing through come what may, a New Day. A New Day offers, distractions, challenges, concerns, inclusive of the waters that surround our journey, and as we pursue going forward means a choice. Exercising daily means, at least "for me" Pressing Through, in the Midst Of... In Spite Of... Even Though... A Choice, a Decision arises "each day" on what the Focus Will Be, on What the Exercise Will Be "This Day"
Who Has the Golden Ticket?!
I love transparency, and just sharing, putting "my truth" on the table. I'm Not sharing Answers, Sharing My Truth, Sharing My Perspective. The words "Who Has the Golden Ticket" in my heart speaks volumes.
All of us have many opinions, you should do this, why didn't they do that... But Who Has the Golden Ticket?!, being transparent, we are all a mixing bowl. A mixing bowl filled with so so many different perspectives, so many opinions. This is not shared to be a downer, but to speak transparent, like our Book Opened, it will Close. These words should have meaning, should allow "us all" to Pause and decide what really matters. These words should determine our Actions towards others, and the words we choose to speak. Who Has the Golden Ticket?! Yvette "Donyale", why share anything?! For me "for some", they need to know that no one has a Golden Ticket "eliminating" them from the Chapter Closing. For me, it means a reminder that we all need to Take a Pause, before we. . . You, I, We travel this journey with many but we are and always will be "accountable to one" and that alone "for some" allows us to choose our Focus, allows us in spite of, to Exercise Daily in Gratitude. Who Has the Golden Ticket?! Live Full Today, choosing Peaceful Places, Grateful Places, Love Places Because... Again Again Again No Promised Us that Tomorrow Will Look the Same As Today For this Heart, knowing that allowed awareness of what really mattered, it allowed "this heart" to Rob Regret.
Many of you, have traveled this journey with me since 2014, "Thank You" Consider, the words of where it began and why, including all the things that have happened along the journey.
For those who have been inspired, My Ask, is to share the inspiration with others, whoever is on your heart right now. This journey is much more than about "you" or "I." Live Heart Inspired is an Inspirational Journal to remind us, to "Take a Pause", the road is much more than about us. It is a choice. It is a Focus, it is an Exercise Daily in Gratitude. From a Heart that Knows "Gratitude Robs Regret" Live Heart Inspired available in Soft Cover and E-book
Who Has the Golden Ticket?!
For Some...
We recognize what really matters "this day" For Some... We took what tried to take away our voice, our hope for tomorrow and do something with it, that would be a blessing to someone else. This voice remains, Living In My Truth... Not someone special, someone who made a choice to do something with the destruction that "in an instant" found me.
If this village has been a blessing, is a blessing, and has provided inspiration and value, My Ask is to bless someone else with bringing awareness.
If and Only if, it has meant or means something to you. 
Who Has the Golden Ticket?!
I consider the season that my journey is in, and I'm very comfortable in knowing what "heart matters" to me. I'm not driven so "easily" by the opinion of someone else.
With that stated, and in fairness, I'm also not the young 21 year old girl either, who at one time cared about the voices that surrounded her journey. A 21 year old, who had a very different lens, and a very different view of the road before her. That alone allows me "now" to not draw lines in the sand, or determine what others should do or not. That alone allows me to not "judge others" I have a huge project, that I'm reminded of every time that I look in a mirror. My hope is that the grass of others is very green, but there is so many things that creep in my own yard, that I'm constantly pulling weeds, with a heart that desires instead to "plant more flowers"
This village is a gift, I share what encourages, what inspires, what is not so easy. I share words to consider and to reflect. I define my journey, by "this day" and by the road hopefully before me, as one traveling with "An Artist's Heart".
Why those words... An Artist's Heart For me, it speaks volumes, it means that as an Artist, you are constantly creating from the thoughts within, and you release what "is lodged within", what is seen within. For most artists, they are filled with Hope of what can be. The Freedom in that, is that in this village, Helping Build Bridges Across, started as a simple share from a joyful place. Those same words that began in "2014" revisit my heart often, of why this "online journey began." To learn how it started, please visit the ABOUT page which is added to but began "April 2014", consider those words of where it began, and for those who have traveled quite a distance with me, consider all that has happened between "Then and Now." As a woman of Faith, I believe my steps are ordered, and I don't have it all figured out and before my chapter closes, I don't know If I ever will. I do recognize the priceless treasure of a New Day, and that each day someone was not afforded that gift. For me that's priceless, and my garden continues "Planting seeds of Gratitude. I know "My Why" My garden started as a joyful "hike" and continued through "painful places" which included a decision to do something with those places, and that was not easy. The focus continues, working, planting seeds of Gratitude, that have the potential to grow for a lifetime. That is a treasure to this heart. Now, this village has become a Fulfillment, a Work that is bigger and more than about me, and including I don't know where it will go, and I don't know where it will end. I do know, I will "continue forward" I live daily grateful to my Creator, a relationship, that reveals "beautiful" is located in every day, and yes there is "painful places" but this village is for us to "exercise" in those places, to soar above them. Again "multiple times" an exercise. Challenges, Distractions, Hurtful, Painful Places will travel along the journey. THE EXERCISE is to FOCUS on what "Heart Matters", exercising Gratitude, exercising Peace. Like the Eagle, "by choice", Soaring above the Storm. Did Anyone Say Easy?! I believe the words were Focus and Exercising in what "Heart Matters" Hugs, Donyale "From a Heart that Knows, Gratitude Robs Regret"
This is shared for the one, for the heart who already knows the answer, yet you still choose to ask the questions. This is for the one who chooses to overlook what you already know. Everything is not for everyone, but then there is that which is a special delivery "just for you". What you choose to do with it will always be completely up to you.
A heart that shares what is lodged within, is often described as the heart of an artist. Where it travels and who is connected to it
is always God's Business.
Making Gratitude Contagious is always the intent
Excuse Me; Respectfully this is for "You"
This hits close to home because it reminds me of the "same conversations", the same cycle with those very close to me, who never seem to understand "what really matters". The same issues, the same conversations, it really is a Merry-Go-Round. No matter how many ways you say it, share it, listen to it, like a butterfly, whatever is shared, it is captured for a brief moment, and then flies away, and then the cycle begins again. No, I'm not an expert, and No I have "not mastered" this but what I have done is "exercise daily" and that has allowed my muscles to become stronger; Spiritually, Mentally, Physically and including holding the reigns on my emotions. It does not mean moments don't challenge my journey, it means my muscle is stronger and my Reflex overrides my emotions of nonsense "most times" I will continue to allow the Merry-Go-Round cycle, because I do care, I do love those who are close to me, and maybe it is just venting to a trusted source and from my end, it will not be judged, it will not be retained. A listening ear allows a release to the one sharing. Including, who knows where a "trusted ear" for me, will be needed for the road ahead. I'm not naïve, I recognize that Words are easier said, than taking actions but that is Why I, Why others should consider "exercising" the Peace within. Exercising "daily" on what "really matters". NO ONE SAID EASY, it is a choice, it is an exercise. What can I do with this Merry-Go-Round Cycle?!, I can take it and share it, knowing that a Heart will hear it, and do something with it. I know that in this process it will be shared, and those seeds will continue to Grow. That is truly a blessing. That is taking something and doing something with it "that matters", at least for this heart, I Am Grateful. Excuse Me; Respectfully this is for "You" Why the same questions?!, and Why the same cycle?!, when most who ask already know the answer. Respectfully, change is not an easy road, "for most of us" and truthfully the option in some cases, is not really available, it is the moments that are overwhelming and God Knows what is really needed, including "who" is a "trusted ear" that will not pass judgment, or look for an opportunity to blast someone else business, that may be just enough, but at some point does anyone recognize, as a new book opens, it will also will surely close. That is what allows for "some" to exercise Gratitude Daily. Respectfully, these words, this image "for some" will be enough to allow reflection, will be enough to begin the work, a moment for change, for the work to make a change. These words will penetrate reflection and the work will begin with a local church, or "trusted" professional Help. It will begin a Change, "for some". Excuse Me; Respectfully this is for "You" For some, the roots are much deeper, and if that is "you" there is no shame in that. Please, get the help you need, not later, not tomorrow. Now... Hopeline: 1-800-442-4673 A confidential conversation is always a great start, and including local recommended resources will keep "you" moving forward. Please do what is "best" for YOU. This is not about They, or what someone else would do. Respectfully, this is shared for "You" Excuse Me; Again, Respectfully this is for "You" How Long do "YOU" choose to carry the weights?! Hugs, Yvette "Donyale"
God Knows the Heart. God Knows when no one else gets it. Respectfully, you did not pass by, stop by or connect "by chance". Yes this was written and shared just for "YOU"
#MakingGratitudeContagious is always the intent
The In-Between
Words that in my heart speaks volumes. When my life changed “in an instant” on September 7, 2016, it included a grieving, healing process, and a moment that tattooed my heart forever. A tattoo can be a beautiful thing because it travels with you. A tattoo reminds you of what was beautiful and at the same time what really matters for the day, and the road ahead. It allows “for some” to locate the beauty of each day. Present-day, my perspective, my view has changed or a better word has been “added to”, to carry along, to carry forward. Change is a part of life’s journey, it is not once changed, or shifted, it is a constant change. I choose to receive those things that can be an asset for the road ahead and for those who surround my life. Those I know and those I encounter along the way… What is Precious, What is Priceless, and What really matters “daily”? For those who don’t know the story of “Living In My Truth” and care to know. Simply visit the village. My story is not required, I respectfully recognize that we each have our own story but when someone shares, “in my opinion” it is important to know the intent of why they do what they do. Again just me, I offer the open door to know “the why” Knowing someone’s Why allows insight on Why they do what they do and if it fits your own vibe.
The In-Between
Having many conversations, you quickly realize how we “all” can so easily get lost in things that really don’t matter, or hold enough weight to rob us of our peace, to rob us of a new day that is a gift. For some, we recognize that someone was not afforded that gift “this day” No one hits the mark every time, that includes me, I can easily get distracted and centered on nonsense. It is easy to get distracted by things that don’t really matter, that bring stress and overbearing thoughts of nonsense. The In-Between Consider… How easy it is to go round and round on all the “decisions” that have been made, that is existing in yesterday. No matter the super-hero of the Heart decisions that no one can ever change. The In-Between Consider… Tomorrow, filled with uncertainties, concerns, cares, and anxiety on the known and unknown. The things shared and personally kept near are in “Tomorrow” and what can we do with it today?! Again robs us of the gift called “this day” Now, words are not magic, to know something, to share something doesn’t make it easy. That is Why knowing “our why”, and knowing “our intent” allows us to make choices that serve us healthy within this new day. The In-Between Exercise Exercise Exercising daily in any activity becomes a Reflex. My current exercise is a calm spirit. For me that means taking hold of what matters, taking a pause “when not if” things challenge my day. Challenge of Thoughts, Concerns, and real issues that show their face. From the Calmness allows me to “lookout” at them and not allow them to encompass me, choke me, become a weight. Each new day I ask my Creator... What can I do with This or That?! Or I release My Anxiety, my Cares I Seek Wisdom for all that surrounds me because this road is bigger than me The In-Between I’ve traveled enough miles to know how “days” can be robbed stuck in yesterday, and or worried about Tomorrow. In the scheme of things, I Do Not Control either. So I Exercise I Do What I Can Do “this day” I include “Devotion” in my Day because I Know My Why And I’ve decided to “Embrace, Be Grateful” for This Day Because I Know My Why And I’m Respectful of the Those Who No Longer Have that Choice
The In-Between
This village brings Fulfillment to my Heart but I’m not obligated or sponsored by anyone. I share that because there really is no agenda, there is a Flow Out from the Heart, that returns Flows In and Blesses Me Until Next Time, continue to write great write pages with the gift afforded you of a “new day” Hugs, Donyale For those who want more… Book: Live Heart Inspired Vlog: “In An Instant” 
Was, Is and Always Will Be The Intent
Take a photo?!
Have you ever considered when taking a photo that we are capturing a moment, one that will hold memories for a lifetime and can never be recreated again. That in my opinion makes it valuable. It is priceless. When I was younger, their always seemed to be "that one or few", always with the camera, requesting for everyone to come together to take a photo, and I use to make it my business to run away if possible, thinking I don't want to be in any photos My view is quite different today.
Take a photo?!
My view is quite different today, I will gather, I will get in the photo and some are not the greatest looking photos especially when others post them everywhere. However, It is what it is and I'm grateful to those who understood the value of "taking photos", "capturing memories". I did my share of taking them also, I just chose to not be in the photo or video. Which again, I love to do now. Now it doesn't matter, anytime, anywhere. You want to sing a song? Hey lets sing. You want to do a dance routine? Lets do it. The point is when you live with awareness that we possess a precious gift call now, "this day" and recognize that "no one promised us that tomorrow will look the same" It changes our Focus, for some the perspective is to allow the day to start and end with what really matters.
Take a photo?!
We all have the have to and obligations but they don't have to possess us. For most, we do all we can and to maintain peace within we have to let go, table those things we have no control over. This is never about being easy, this exercise is daily, and it is about choosing our Focus. Our Focus always determine our view. 
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An Inspirational Journal dedicated to responding back to what changed my life "In An Instant" Hugs, Donyale
Not Just a Destination
Daily We Exercise in Making Decisions We Can't Control What Happens Along Life's Journey But We Can Decide on "How To Respond To It"
We Are Running To?!
Pursuit is good but Don't Run So Fast That You Lose Sight of Today 
is always the Intent
The word on my heart this past weekend was “Change” and the flow is that it really isn’t about good or bad changes, it is about life changes. It is a part of life’s journey, we all started as babies and we continue through seasons of life, a change. We viewed and we view the day from the eyes, from the season that we were in and including currently reside in.
The Word “Change” The Word Change, just the word alone takes our thoughts in many directions. I’m in the midst of a change and really when you consider life’s journey there is always something changing. That is why for me, it is not just about the next destination, it is about the choices presented to us within a day, the choice of what we say, what we do and how we choose to respond.
When we live aware of our choices, as we go forward, we can look back at how all those days connected and if a diligent effort is made in the area of gratitude "daily". For some it will include, when in review how exercising "Gratitude Robs Regret"
Gratitude allows us to embrace change, not centered on “easy or not”, but instead what can we do with it, celebrate, locate the beautiful in it, take it and “make it an asset”. Change, address those areas that we can, and to not carry areas that are beyond our control. The Word “Change” Exercising, building on Peace Within, allows the calmness in the midst of. Calmness allows us to locate options and to make decisions accordingly. This can work in so many ways, consider someone who comes to you and is weighted about a situation, not necessarily looking for answers, just overwhelmed, sad in the “moment”. Your disposition of an encouraging word, an upside in looking at the situation, or even a smile or just a listening ear can allow someone else to consider that situation differently.
The Word “Change”
Change has many ways to be looked at. I no longer consider easy or not, my Focus is doing what I can, resting and receiving peace while in the midst of my options, if any or not. My heart chooses making the best of the day I reside in, did I mention the discussion is not about easy. It is about a choice. Living, understanding and recognizing “change” is a part of our lives and when you live the best of every stage, every day, it really takes on a new meaning of what change can mean?! The Word “Change” I don’t share answers, I share a perspective from my experiences, my belief and the lessons from the road traveled and living intentionally for the day that I'm blessed to have. My exercise is accepting Change in whatever season I find myself in. Again and again, my focus is not about "easy or not easy". I can only do what I can do. Let's consider to take what can be an asset and continue forward. All the best, until next time. Hugs, Yvette “Donyale” 
What was meant to destroy not just our lives but for "generations"
When Life Changes "In An Instant" You, I, We always have a choice on what to do with it My Decision Was, Is and for the remainder of this journey Has been Been Decided Fulfillment has been located in knowing that my experience can be shared and God will decide where it will land which "for me" is His Business This work, this journey is no longer just me or my home But Now For Every Heart who found found there way here Long Term, Short Term or just for a Moment Take what can be an asset and Continue Forward Some will tend the garden Some will water it Some will take a moment to Rest and Regroup before continuing forward #MakingGratitudeContagious is always the intent 
Have you figured out?!
Have you figured out, who this journey belongs to?! Freedom "for me" is when "you" know your why. My journey, my life was liberated when I figured out that I travel with many, but I will always be accountable to one. So many voices, so many opinions, so many of "they say", but liberation found me, asking. . .what do I say?! This includes as a Woman of Faith, for me, that means seeking, walking, asking, having a relationship with my Creator, not just based on a religion, not just based on rules and regulations of that religion, but my journey based on a "relationship" with God. After all, my chapter will end on the way it started "just me" and with that, I Live "daily" on what I'm willing to die on, which includes my daily words spoken, my choices, my daily actions.
Have you figured out?!
My name is Yvette "Donyale" to know more, to learn more, simply visit where it started on "About". If you know nothing else about me, or about "Helping Build Bridges Across" please depart with this. . . I do not share Answers, I share a Perspective from the road traveled "to date" of this post, from my experiences, from my "chosen belief", my view. I share, and my invitation is that you can Watch, you can Listen, you can Read, and "you decide" what can be an asset to your journey and continue forward. > > Buffet Table "you" can choose.
Have you figured out?!
This post is shared from an observation of so many who want to "fit in" and it is adopted in the heart of one who allows the views of others to decide, overriding what may not "feel comfortable", it appears to be decided by "living" measured by the ruler of others. Have you ever considered, We are all traveling a journey figuring things out, making decisions, and of course we receive an overflow of information, of voices, and of opinions. In closing. . . Have you figured out?! Who the journey belongs to, we all receive information, and then We, You, and I have to decide what the decision will be not for a lifetime, for the Day, for the Moment, for the decision that needs to be made in that moment. We all grow, and where we start, will change as we travel forward, this share is to Take Time, Take a Pause to decide in this Chapter, this Season of the journey what is best for "you". 
Have you figured out?!
Thank you for being here, for sharing this journey here at Helping Build Bridges Across We may not share the "same" in many areas but our core is Gratitude, because Friend from a Heart that Knows, "Gratitude Always Robs Regret"
Have you figured out?!
Get in where your heart fits in. This is an Open Door Community. Not sharing answers, sharing a Perspective, filled with Images and Words, only for "you" to consider for this day and the road before us. Hugs, Yvette "Donyale" 
#MakingGratitudeContagious is always the intent
Do Not Invest so much into the words from others, from the opinion of others, so much that you lose your Focus, you lose your Joy, and or lose your Peace. Not one of us know "the heart" of someone else and some only know how to hurt others by words and actions based on there own pain within, there own insecurity. There are situations, that you can't just walk away. For some, they live with the Pain, they work with the Pain, they encounter the Pain along the journey. Do Not Invest so much The work is your heart, your mind, your peace. Yes, work. You and I can't control anyone else. Our control is what we do with the insensitivity, the nonsense, the anger delivered our way. For some, it is easy, to draw a line and end those situations. For some, not so easy, so much is obligated to this source of no discretion. You can't just make the change in an instant, so much more is involved. How powerful it is to know your source of Peace, and to live daily in deciding what is allowed in your Heart Gate. Only we can decide what we allow within, only we can decide how to respond. The work in this village, Helping Build Bridges Across, is to remind you that "No One Said Easy", we are not exercising, building on EASY. Our work is daily exercise, in the decisions we "choose" to make, our "response" we choose to deliver, and our "participation' in accepting invitations to Drama. Do Not Invest so much Do you recognize how powerful that word "participation" is. The source that delivers confusion, drama, just venom, consider it requires participation in the "invitation" of that, for some it has been a dance, a rehearsal of the same script. Only you can decide "no", I will not participate in the pain of someone else, it is there work to do. The same as it is for us, we should not be delivering our moments of hurt, pain on to someone else. We have to do the work, we have to confront the ground that needs to be worked on. 
Do Not Invest so much
The journey of "Peace" doesn't require speeches, or declarations, it is operating in what we can control, our heart, our mind. My Faith has taught me the power of my journey, my heart, my fulfillment, and that is not measured by anyone else. I have forgiven many things, and the greatest freedom, is it no longer a Focus, it is no longer a Distraction, it is not my center, my thoughts and my time is no longer invested in those areas, I can't control and "what has been released".
Be sure to connect to our Village News, together we are exercising our Peace muscles, our Gratitude muscles and we share the power of that. #PlantingSeedsofGratitude
"Whatever we plant, always has the potential to grow" 
"The Why" can fall into so many categories...
The Journey online began with just sharing encouragement, which has always encouraged me, a win-win. For the record, this is not an obligation, not an agenda, just an area of joy to share words and images that allow us to pause and consider, from day one, to appreciate the gift of life. **The "About" page and first words posted, April 2014, was when this road map began online, and shares a view of the beginning along this roadmap. Who knew at the time where the road would lead...
When my life, my home, changed "instantly", a tragic unimaginable moment with details that seem like yesterday. When my husband, a father to our two sons was murdered, it was a moment that takes your breath away. In a Fog, not clear of the next steps, but walking through with my Creator, He provided so much more, that there is no way to share the gravity, in a blog.
Grateful for God's Grace, for my sons and I, shared more on the Podcast: "Why An Eagle?!" My journey had come to a crossroad "in an instant", and what was before me, in that moment was my Faith, in that moment it was in question, "What now, what is your Faith now? My blueprint, my plans ripped up in an instant, did I mention "In an Instant" As often shared in the village, I had a choice, to remain angry, to continue the road weighted, as a victim. A personal choice, to decide if I would reside, In a space that no matter, what I chose would not change what had happened to our home. A period of Healing, a period of Trusting and Questioning God, a God who I know and had walked with prior to this moment in my journey, a God I personally know has no darkness in Him (1 John 1:4-5) but, still within a painful place, left to wrestle with Why?!, Left with Pain, and left with, What Now?! For me, it was an opportunity to punch back at the evil that came on my doorstep. A praying woman, who knew that the journey would include continuing to pray through for my sons, for my direction and as time went on, making a choice to do something with it, no longer just about my home, but now about every Heart that was in the midst of "Why" and including, those whose Journey may across an unimaginable crossroad. This became the Work, the fulfillment to my heart, and the seeds that would be planted...
The Why...
The rearview mirror, always allows a view of the road behind of where you've traveled, and present day perspective, the journey. Continuous reflection, my Creator, God walked us through with a Peace that can't be explained, which included Tears in the midst of celebrations. Present day, a continued Faith, a Hope that continues beyond a grave, and continued Trust in a Living God.
We may not share the same Faith, or have the same experience or perspective, but here, this village, Helping Build Bridges Across, was created to Share the Unfamiliar Journey together, to share the Smiles, the Joy, to Share a Perspective without providing Answers. A place to remind "us" to Take a Pause and Consider, what really matters to us "daily". To appreciate the lives that surround us "today"
Simply, a place, a village that is empowered by "Love" and that allows us to Share, to Listen to each other without being offended, when and if we don't agree.
Not Answers, Sharing a Perspective
The work is continuous, the intent was, is and always will be the same. My punch back to the pain that tried to destroy our home, my sons and generations is the continued work of what fulfills my Heart. Sharing Encouragement, Empowering Words and Images to build on Peace within, all of which encourages and empowers my Journey. #IAmGrateful
#MakingGratitudeContagious
"No One Said Easy"
The Focus is clear When you recognize "No One Promised Us Tomorrow Will Look the Same as Today"
Words are not Magic
Those very words can be applied to so many situations, words are key and important, they build, they allow us to reflect, they assist us in our focus but they are "aided" by, empowered by exercising in what we read, exercising what we speak, and exercising in what we believe. Words are Not Magic Consider, if you're in the season of wanting to lose weight, or get toned, or to build muscle, Buying the gym membership, or the exercise equipment, or the products for eating healthier, or the protein drinks, is not going to achieve those things, it is in the "exercise" of using the equipment, going to the gym, making daily decisions of what we choose to eat that decides. We have the words, we know the system, but we have to "exercise" in it. Words are Not Magic As a woman of Faith, I know the Word, I study, I read books, I attend my local service, have had years behind me of church homes and community faith groups. It is not just in listening, or just reading scriptures, it is in the Exercise of my Faith that determines my view. The experiences behind that I had to walk through by Faith, that allowed me the Trust in God for current day and for the road ahead, again, not just the Words, but by the exercise of my Faith, that allows me to know and to continue to trust God. Words are Not Magic Gratitude, affirmations, being kind, that is a great focus, a personal favorite, but to read Positive Words, Quotes, to listen to motivational inspiring speakers is not enough. Gratitude is more than a word, it is an action, that builds from the daily choices we make, "exercising" why are you grateful for a new day, and making choices from that Why. Making choices to bring smiles to others. Making choices to not attend "drama" or "confusion". It is an Exercise. Words are Not Magic Peace within, to say it, to be aware of it, doesn't make it so. It is "choosing", making choices on what will be allowed to come within. It is making choices on those who surround our life, our inner circle. Peace within a valuable asset, and to know about it, is not enough, it is a decision on building on that Peace within, understanding the value of it. Peace allows calmness in the midst of most things, the calmness is important, it is the space that allows to us hear, to locate options needed for challenges that may be surrounding us, or decisions that need that may effect the road before us. Words are Not Magic Not providing answers, sharing a perspective. Making choices to use my experiences of personal pain along my journey, and doing something with it. Encouraging others which encourages me, being in service to others, is my heart's fulfillment. Not obligated to do this, a choice. No One Said Easy, and now that we know, we "choose" to exercise and continue forward.
#MakingGratitudeContagious is always the intent
When This. . .Than That
Often, I consider the image of a hourglass, sand slowing drifting from the top into the bottom glass. In reflection, like time, no matter what you or I decide to do with it, the sand continues to drift, time continues "no matter" how we choose to use it. With that, for me it puts in perspective what really makes sense on a daily basis, which includes for me, to decide to grab the reigns that matter to my heart, to be "grateful" for all areas afforded within a new day. If that thought could continue to dance with us, it would allow us to "be aware" on how we decide to spend our time. It would allow us to walk with that knowing of "no one promised us, that tomorrow will look the same as today". Those thoughts allow us to live with a "Pause" before we speak. A pause that allows us to consider the intent behind our response or the words that we choose to speak. A pause allows the decision in some situations, of "peaceful silence" without ever speaking a word. We would let go of hours spent on "what others" should do or should not do, and we would live more in starting our focus on our daily journey, we would allow our lives to represent living in "not taking one day" for granted. We would not allow the voices of others to set the bar, of what our heart whispers is possible, and if nothing more than just "trying" that alone would allow gratification. Not One Day for granted. . . Not one day wasted on trying to wait on every block to be in the perfect spot, having a blueprint drawn that truthfully when you've walked enough miles, you recognize, how much control you or I truly have. Living daily with an intent of what really matters in our life, and what is priceless. When This. . .Than That Words to consider, not sharing answers, sharing a perspective. Making a choice to take my experiences of personal pain and doing something with it. Not allowing it to defined me but instead to be in service to others, recognizing what I'm able to share. #WhenYouKnowYourWhy #PlantingSeedsofGratitude #HelpingBuildBridgesAcross #FromaHearthatKnows #GratitudeRobsRegret 
Who is your Pack?!
Who our lives are surrounded by matters. Your Pack, references your inner circle, those who have traveled along the journey with you unconditionally. It is not attached to personal interests, or personal pursuits, or contacts, or connections. Your Pack is those who are with you when life gets ugly, when you have pages that take your breath away and some pages that you knock you down to the mat. Your Pack are those who celebrate with you, not envious of your "mountain" moments, but truly are rooting for you, and they are there with you, hoping along with you, to go as high as you strive to climb. Your Pack. . .Who is Your Pack?! That matters, because those whom are closest to us speak into our lives, they share words that can be empowering, they share words that can also irritate, can frustrate you, all while being wrapped in love. But through it all, you know the Intent, You Know they are giving from the Heart and they are prepared to go the distance. Your pack "has shown" when it was not great moments, they were there. A brief pause to share, I pray we add the same value to our pack, to those who are precious to us, it should be a dance along life's journey. It should reflect the love and show support "both ways". Packs consist of Family, and Dear Friends and together pursue the distance and love on each other along the way. The Pack shares in tears, in fearful moments, the challenges of each other and celebrating the Moments of Life's Journey. A blessing for some, to have a Pack that prays for each other and recognizes that our Life's Journey is so much more than a mirror, not predicated only on ourselves. Choosing to not live intentionally selfish. Who is Your Pack?! It may be you don't have those, or even a few, and if not, than find the villages, the places and spaces that send out love and have an unconditional open door. The same as this village, Helping Build Bridges Across, has an open door. The intent is to travel together, sharing, living experiences that can be an asset, that can be a reminder of why Making Gratitude Contagious is Priceless. Your Pack can consist of a Few, in my case, it consists of Family, Dear Friends and Including this village of HBBA, and I don't take that for priceless, treasure for granted. We are not limited to the many Packs we have, together, we remind each other "What Really Matters", and what is most precious in our lives "right now" Hugs, Donyale For those who want more, be sure to connect to our Newsletter, it allows more ways to be connected and together sharing in exercising peace within and planting seeds of gratitude. and Sample Platter, in case you are not aware of the buffet table, this allows you to experience a sampling of the work this heart is blessed to do. #Fulfillment Until next time. . .Continued Best  Who is in the Driver's Seat? What emotion has the keys and is driving, doesn't ask, again not asking but is driving. What emotion has the keys? and is deciding the direction. The driver always decides the direction, will it be to continue forward, or to park, or maybe the vehicle has a cover over it, and or maybe even decides to turn around and return to the road behind. Who is in the Driver's Seat? Sharing Gratitude, exercising Gratitude, choosing to locate beautiful in what surrounds our life daily, meditation, daily affirmations, and favorite scriptures spoken daily, is not "magic" it is exercising in it. It is boldly "choosing" the emotion that will be allowed to drive, that will be allowed to have the keys. Who is in the Driver's Seat? There are "weighted days", days that try to rob you of joy, and want to steal your attention to all the "wrong" in your life, all the missing pieces, all those who have done you wrong. Thoughts that dance with you whispering if only you had done this or done that. Thoughts sometimes spoken out loud even through familiar trusted faces. Distractions. Who is in the Driver's Seat? Exercising Gratitude does not just remove those not so great emotions, those challenges. The exercise is a great word in my opinion because for me it is "exercising" and "exercising symbolizes "work", "exercising" symbolizes a discipline, it symbolizes especially on those days where you don't want to exercise, a choice, you choose in the midst of those emotions, those thoughts, who the driver will be. You decide the page that you "intend to write" Intend because we don't control "most" things but we can decide how to react to those places that are not so pretty, are not so great, are triggers that we have to choose not to dance with. Always a Choice and for those who know our village, No One Said or is Looking for Easy, it is a Choice, it is intentional living. Who is in the Driver's Seat? Please know, I don't share answers, I share a perspective of what has allowed me to walk in Peace and Calmness more days than not. I choose not to dance with drama, it's "a choice" for me built from my foundation of faith, from firsthand experience, my truth. It does not mean that I don't receive "invitations" for confusion, or drama. It means, I have the keys and I choose to decide what will have "my focus" I choose the invitations that I will accept and or decline. I choose who has the keys, and what emotion "will be allowed" to drive. Who is in the Driver's Seat? In closing, like a sponge we choose what to soak up our lives with, all the conversations that surround us, the noise, the focus is the those conversations that we choose to engage in, and that we choose to allow to surround us, we choose what we want to entertain. Always a choice Who is in the Driver's Seat? Along this journey that we travel, we are exercising, we are planting seeds of gratitude, we are intentionally living, and we know that what we plant has the potential to grow for "generations". Helping Build Bridges Across building from our Generation to the Next Making Gratitude Contagious is always the Intent
We May Travel in the Same Direction
But The How To The Experience Will Become Our Own Our View Of the Road Ahead May Look Very Different ~ HS
Making Gratitude Contagious is always the Intent
That Sprout
Grows for Generations
For Generations. . .
Precious Words to Consider for Many areas in our Life The Words that determine Our Words and Our Actions Welcome to the Journey HBBA, the road continues. . . Beautiful as an Artist allows the Heart to be Shared without being a pattern, a template or locked in a box ~HS Enjoy ~ "If Only Our Eyes Could See. .  Who has the Time to exercise Gratitude?! My question would be quite different...Who can afford to not exercise in Gratitude?! Donyale, we have the shirt, a button, a mug, and yes we know Gratitude is the Attitude, what does it really matter?! Everyone is always talking about being kind, or embracing moments blah, blah, and blah.  It Matters. . .From a Heart that Knows Firsthand it Matters. Exercising in this allowed me to "Rob" Regret in many areas. I'm Grateful. I learned the lesson, and it has been priceless "That No One Promised Us that Tomorrow Will Look the Same as Today" What a difference that "statement" made in my life and continues throughout my journey, it determines my conversation, my response, my actions, making the most of this day, being a presence that brings peace and in return always receives it. I'm Grateful to have Learned that Lesson. Again "No One Promised Tomorrow Will Look the Same as Today" I would even debate that Exercising Gratitude, is a vital part to not being trapped or set up for Regret. By Trapped or Set Up, I'm referencing to; In a Box (a stagnate place) confined with just thoughts of. . . If only I would have, or I should have, and or if I had a second chance it would be different. Those thoughts alone can be very overwhelming, providing enough weight that you can literally go into a mode of "stagnation" **Note: If you fall in these categories already mentioned, then before we continue further down this road; Lets deal with the issue up front, the issue of those locked in Regret, who dance with the thoughts just mentioned; Lets Confront It that You, I, We can't change what's happened, we can't rewrite any pages, and I mean "not one" page, not one paragraph, and not one sentence. What is done is done. Take a Stand and continue forward understanding and confronting that, if you are someone who needs more than being served by this Buffet Table, served along this Helping Build Bridges Across Journey, and you recognize professional help is needed, to get through it, then do it, don't quiver on it, don't hesitate, don't wrestle another day with it, life is to short to be robbed of precious days, to be robbed of priceless, precious opportunities that a New Day Offers. The words shared here are meant to be an asset, a buffet table set up to take what can be an asset along your journey, and leave the rest behind. Whenever I'm sharing on this topic or in this area, it is important that you know there is help, 24 hours / 7 days a week; a Lifeline: **If you are battling thoughts that you can't work through alone, or your are in a situation that requires resources or additional help : Please Call; # 1-800-273-8255 **If not now, lock it in your phone and call if you need the Help. Please know, I don't presume one way is the only way, I don't assume my way is the way, my intent is to share the power of what has bought my life unmeasurable peace and the impact it can offer and have on your perspective. Gratitude is so much more than a word it's an action, an action that will allow "you", which allowed me and continues to serve my journey, and it will extend to anyone who is willing to exercise in it, it will allow YOU to Rob Regret. It will allow the opportunity to measure the cost of the words and the actions that YOU choose to use along the journey. We live in "this day", and in "this moment" exercising Gratitude because for some we Know that "No Promised Us Tomorrow will look the Same as Today". Most Humbled Hearts come through painful places, and it humbles you, it allows you to recognize that the journey is so much more than just about you, about me, about us. It is a gift to be able to share an experience that allowed you to walk through challenging places, which for me includes God First, whose Grace walked with me and guided me and remains continuously with me along the way of each and every new Day. I'm Grateful. With that last statement alone. . . "A Humble Heart who knows Firsthand the Power of Exercising Gratitude" It is what allows our Perspective, our Focus, it is what determines What We Say, What We Do and includes What we will not do, because we live Now, and We Do Not Allow Anything to Rob Us of That. Exercising Gratitude overrides "triggers" that in the past would have created more drama, or responses that created a bigger divide, but now Gratitude allows an opportunity to Pause, to Decide what really is worth extending my Energy. Exercising Gratitude allows a Peaceful Silence, without the need to provide choice words, or the need to have the last word. A Powerful Exercise daily, that without notice becomes a reliable reflex. Who Has Time to Exercise Gratitude? To be Kind?  My question would be quite different...Who can afford to not exercise in Gratitude?! Hugs, Donyale 
Do these sound familiar?, recently I had to update some information and the funny part, it "allowed" options with a "one word" choice, and I went through the list and I considered I dabble in many areas, including this location, this village, our "Community" this place is an door opened to many. . . How do you Title it? How you you settle on One Word? ARTIST  Artist, just seemed to fit, it made sense to me. Before settling on the word, I decided to locate the definition, which is as follows; Artist (definition) one of many that seem to fit: One who practices at various creative arts The words that I love "practices at various" How fitting, it lives outside of a box, it moves beyond the walls of a 'one' title journey, it breathes allowing room to embrace what a New Day Offers while allowing the Journey, the Road Ahead to evolve, to offer New Roads New Paths and New Adventures Artist: One who practices at various creative arts My Definition Add-On: An Artist, one who doesn't live inside a Box, One Who chooses to be Open to the Beautiful that Surrounds their Life, Not just in the Hope for Tomorrow, but for the Gift of what surrounds Today.
An Artist can be surrounded by broken pieces, and the Heart Whispers what can be created with those pieces. It begins with the View, what can be seen, what can be possible. The process is not one way, it is Beautiful because the Flow is through the eyes, the heart of an individual Artist. For me, I share the creation by God's Grace, Wisdom of what can be created from broken pieces, I share the work, the exercise of what I exercise, of what I'm working through and in reflect on, I like you, travel the journey. Thank you for traveling this journey with me, and together Planting Seeds of Gratitude, for traveling together creating with the broken pieces around us, not focused on them being broken but Instead on What Can be Created? What can Grow from the Seeds we Plant? We all have Stories behind a Smile, but remember, it's not just what happened, it is what can we do with that matters As an Artist, "what we can do" will uniquely be our own to decide. Hugs, Donyale #MakingGratitudeContagious is always the intent
I'm Offended. . .Is it Just Me?!
I recognize we are not the same, we have different experiences, environments, beliefs and pursuits. Is it only me?! What travels with me "daily" is just how precious Life is, how fragile and how priceless a new day is. I always recognize "each new day" someone is not afforded the same. Is it Just Me?! The more I reflect, listen, and observe, it amazes me how many walk on eggshells accommodating the sensitivity of others and no matter the effort invested, those folks still find ways to be offended. I'm offended. . . Is it Just Me?! Is it Just Me?! Why is it so challenging "with some" to just have a conversation, to share that an action or words may have been hurtful, A conversation allows an opportunity to find out if a moment was misunderstood Why is the road so much easier to Be Offended?! Is it Just Me?! I've come to the conclusion as I observe, as I listen that for some maybe the way out, is to just distance themselves, to just choose to separate Yet when, not if, but when life changes and a chapter comes to an end These very people who created the most noise and or exercised being Offended Provide the greatest display of emotions and Often find themselves "trapped" in Regret I'm offended. . .Is it Just Me?! We all have a choice on what that means or will mean "Offense" and For How Long One thing for sure "nothing" remains the Same and Change comes and only we can decide where we will be standing When "that" Time Arrives Is it Just Me?! 
#MakingGratitudeContagious is always the intent
You're Never Obligated. . .
I share what I use, believe in and appreciate. My invitation to you is to Get In Where You Fit and if that means Sharing, Commenting, Planting Seeds of Gratitude, all of it is appreciated. If you remember nothing else, consider what this village has been from "Day One" and will continue to be until the Chapter Closes. #MakingGratitudeContagious Hugs, Donyale |
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