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What has you distracted?

10/28/2021

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What has you distracted?

Sharing what can so easily become a hindrance and in many ways, an obstacle.

I like to look-up definitions on words, with most words, we may know what they mean, the general idea.  When you look up the definition, at times it will pinpoint and describe a current situation.  

In my situation, having the heart of an artist, something within wants to be shared, expressed and for those who have traveled a distance knows, it is always with the intent of Making Gratitude Contagious.  Exercising, Exercising my, your, our Focus on what really matters. Daily.



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What has you distracted?

You can be Focused on something, you can be in the zone with an Intent to complete something and it is "subtle thing" that can create a "distraction" and you are off in another direction.  It can be a thought, it can be a thing, it is a distraction.

Distraction Defined:  
A Thing that "prevents" from giving full attention to something else.

Extreme agitation of the mind or emotions.

Those two definitions are an arrow, they zoom right in on what it means to be Focused on something that matters, that is a good place, a place of intent.  Then a "distraction"
What has you distracted?

The gift is being "aware", it is being "alert" to those subtle things that creep in and take your day in a whole different direction.  You don't know what you don't know, but when you learn, or become aware, you add it to your "Exercise" of being Focused on "What Really Matters"

Thank you being Here, Thank you for traveling this road with me, here at the
​Village of "Helping Build Bridges Across", building from our generation into the next
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The book is Dedicated to my Husband's Memory
It is my way of Focusing on What Really Matters and Doing
Something with a Moment that Changes Life "In An Instant"
With a Focused intent to be a Blessing in the life of someone else.
The kind of work that Fulfills my Heart

Fulfillment Defined:  The achievement of something desired.

Hugs,
Donyale
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I Am Offended. . .

10/19/2021

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I AM Offended. . .
​These words for me are “Time Robbers”, they are distractions, they are “thoughts” that can fill up a whole day, having conversations with those not even connected to the situation, conversations that are just speculation of why this, or why that.  Time Robbers.

For those of you sharing this journey with me, here at "Helping Build Bridges Across"  

Thank you for being here.

My "Thank You" is that you can be in a number of places, and taking a moment with me, is appreciated.  The Focus, the intent that most of you are aware of is
"Making Gratitude Contagious".  



Please Listen, something will always attempt and in some cases achieve, grabbing our attention, creating hours upon hours, focused in some cases on “nonsense”.  

My heart is to live Transparently, it doesn’t mean every question asked of me will be answered, in some cases, it may be a response of “I’m not at liberty to speak about that”, which translates, I haven’t given time or thought to it and I don’t want to just reply out of the need to just respond. It also means that every story is not to be shared, because it includes many others, and it is not fair, to decide for them "by sharing".


I AM Offended. . .


Recently, it was shared with me that someone was offended, years ago, it seemed because they were not acknowledged.  In this case, it was a moment of being in the same shopping mall, and the person shared they looked right at me and I didn’t seem to acknowledge them.  Notice, I used the word “years”, let us for a moment consider that time frame.

A Year = 365 days

Noting, that the person who shared this, mentioned this had happened “a few years ago”.  365 days multiplied by 3 =    1095 days wasted on being offended, instead of sending a text, making a phone call, if it was that important to address;  Time Robber


I AM Offended. . .

For the record, I don’t remember seeing anyone that I purposely “did not acknowledge”, it is not in my character, not because I’m some great, in control person, it is just not a place that I wrestle with.  I have challenges like all of us, this is just not one of them.  


I'm the person who will speak to anyone, and even if “years ago” some petty, nonsense reasons that an association went awry, traveling the road now, arriving “to this date” of this post,  those kinds of reasons no longer hold weight.  Life is too precious and time is too short, to invest so much into “an assumption”, to live burdened, questioning “why” someone is offended, does not quite equate in my mind, it does not make sense to me. I refuse to give it any space, any time, and any investment.  My heart does not want to be robbed of Time. 


We often live as if, tomorrow is a guarantee filled with the same options in our lives “this day”.  The appearance presented, is that we have plenty of time to set things straight, to apologize, or get back on track with a person.  Life has a funny way of providing the appearance of what “a lifetime means”. . .The amount of time that a “lifetime” is measured by?!


In Closing, If I could give anything to anyone from this share, it would be to not allow "nonsense" to set a trap for your journey.  To not allow the small or in some cases the large things to become your anchor, your daily focus, your chain attached to your ankle.  

Don’t allow life to set a trap of offense, so when, “not if”, things change, you will not be left in that location called “Regret”. 

The Location called "Regret", it is a real trap when you live "offended". 


I AM Offended. . .

Consider, there are numerous reasons a person can be distracted, could walk right past you and not speak.  It is numerous reasons, why someone didn’t return a call the same day or attend an event.  


There are many stories behind a Smile
Someone received some news that changed their life in an instant
Some are battling circumstances “daily” that they never share out loud
Some are reassessing the season of life they are currently in
Some just received news about a loved one or a dear friend
Some are weighted by obligations and or what now

The list is endless. . . 



The Point, is instead of living “offended” do what is needed to have Peace “in your heart”.
If it is something that can be addressed by a conversation, then have the conversation with the intent, “to not escalate the issue” but instead the hope to find a resolution.  


Reside that Peace will be your approach, and even if it means there is no solution, or idea outcome. Your journey, your intent remains that you did what was needed to have “Peace” for your heart, and then like all of us, we have to just continue forward. 



I AM Offended…

I AM Offended…

I have a list of things that I could reference that have been said, or done, or behavior that appeared odd to me, in the moment. Time, experience, things that matter have taught me to love them anyway.  We may not share the same view, the same belief, or have had the same experiences, or travel the same road forward, but for "some" we have decided. 

 We "WILL NOT" Live Being Offended. 

Are You Offended?! 
Is there a work you need to do, to find your Peace, to take hold of the days that are
“gifted” to you?!  


~ Questions for only your heart to Answer ~

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Like a Book. . .

10/13/2021

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Like a Book...
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When I consider my journey "to date" of posting this.  I summarize it to a metaphor that I often use.  My journey is like a book, that has had numerous chapters, with a hopeful heart to have many more. 

My book began with an opening like us all, as a baby who had no idea where she was or who she was, a baby who grew more with a child's heart filled with innocent eyes of the world that surrounded her. 

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 Like a Book...



For me sharing in this way, doesn't make me sad, maybe it comes from the road traveled to this date, that has taught me how precious "life" is, and teaches me how to be very grateful to "be aware of that fact".  Awareness determines my words, my actions, and my decisions "daily". 



Life is a gift, and each new day my intent is to not take that for granted. I continue forward with awareness of that, including from numerous examples along my life's journey.  I live daily "exercising" in Gratitude, knowing that my book does have a closing chapter too.  I know firsthand and choose to share that living with "Gratitude" does and will "rob regret".


This is a Heart Knows firsthand, that exercising Gratitude, being appreciative allowed me to Rob Regret. To know more, to learn more that is found under "Living In My Truth"




My shares are not about being easy, and not focused on being hard either.  Instead, for me I'm driven in living "fulfilled" and that includes taking what I've walked through and sharing that "as a perspective".  I don't provide answers, like you I'm walking life's journey daily, I share my perspective from what I have experienced and my thoughts on that.  My heart is that you take what can be an asset for this day, to equip for tomorrow and continue forward. 



My purpose, my focus is to continually seek daily a relationship with my Creator, not centered on rituals of a religion.  I want to know God more and My intent is to live loving "this day" and having "awareness" of a hopeful tomorrow with an opportunity to continue in my intent.  Sharing love with all those who surround me and for those I encounter and including this village where I share. 

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Faith in God, has been my leaning board, it has been my refuge, and it has not ever been just about a Religion, it is about a "Relationship" with the Potter who created this Clay.  My help is in Him and this I clearly know.  The comfort in that, is that I did not create myself, so who would better know me, who understands my heart when it's difficult to share it, who knows the road before and who understands the road behind.  God is my comfort for that and numerous more reasons. 




More than words, it is an experience, like any relationship that grows, or you trust in, that is developed from experiences, from being familiar.  This is the walk I've found, not by "just" what I've read but by my "direct" experiences.  In fact, I sum it up as "I'm living" on what I'm prepared for my book to close on. 




That means something to me, it allows me to determine the investment into what surrounds me or to what I allow to grab my attention. It allows me to determine the invitations that I choose to accept or not, of drama or peace.  My choice.  Always a choice. 




My book has a "Hopeful Heart" for many more chapters, that are lived full on the Grace that My Creator has taught me belongs to me, to my journey.  Again, this is not a Share of "being easy".  I define it as "an exercise" of Gratitude daily. 




I recognize and understand completely, to know something and to possess something is two very different things.  I choose daily on where to place my focus, it is a work, it is an exercised decided by continual "choices" daily. 





Like a Book...



My invitation to "YOU",  is to "find" what can be an asset for "this day" and for the "Hopeful Road Before You".  Exercise your Focus on those areas that bring you Peace, that allow you to set aside those areas that you can't change in the moment, so why carry that worry and anxiety "all day".  In calmness, peace within, it allows you to consider options on what needs to be done, it allows you in the midst of that have peace in your home.  This is an exercise, words are not magic and thinking great thoughts one time doesn't cover the whole week.  It is a "daily" work, a focus on what the day before you will be. It is your intent and in most cases, that intent will determine your words and  your actions. 




The intent of this Share, and all shares really, is to just "say it" and to allow you to decide what can be an asset for you, to decide what you can do with it and to find the part that Inspires you, Encourages You, or just simply provides "A Hug" to you. 



My Faith, this Village is centered on "Love", my intent is not to decide who you are or what you should be.  My intent was, is and always will be "Making Gratitude Contagious" and operating in Love. Helping Build Bridges Across is a village that allows conversation, that allows us to respectfully hear each other, and knowing it is okay to agree to disagree.  This village has a buffet table and the heart of it, is to take what can be an asset for your heart and "continue forward". 



The road behind me is filled with so many memories, like a book, chapters of my life filled with joyful moments, tearful moments, hopeful moments, moments where I didn't how things would turn out if not for the Grace of God in my life, celebrations of "new" and  challenging places to "press" through. Including those places of a chapter closed. 


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Like a Book...

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Like a Book...
If you enjoy this feed, and including the social media village. 

You would really enjoy; My Inspirational Journal:  LIVE HEART INSPIRED

Available in Soft Cover and E-Book
Your purchase for yourself or a gift to someone you know, is always, 
"Planting a Seed of Gratitude".  
I'm very grateful for anything you do.
Thank you for being here and for sharing.


Hugs, 
Donyale
"Making Gratitude Contagious" was, is and always will be the intent
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Who Has the Golden Ticket?!

10/2/2021

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For Some,
you realize the journey is not
just a
bout you ~ HS

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Who has the Golden Ticket?!     

Who Has the Golden Ticket?!
We all have our sketch book of what the road behind has taught us, the day that we have "for some"  is a gift,  and the road before us offers "hope". 



For me, every single day is a choice, it is an exercise of Gratitude... 
In the Midst Of...



My favorite words is that "No One Said Easy", to share that my daily exercise is Gratitude for some implies, a New Day to be Grateful and to carry on. Words that appear "simple".  Yes, Simple to say, Simple to share,  but an exercise, an exercise, a pressing through come what may,  a New Day. 



A New Day offers, distractions, challenges, concerns, inclusive of the waters that surround our journey, and as we pursue going forward means a choice. Exercising daily means, at least "for me" Pressing Through,  in the Midst Of...


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In Spite Of...


Even Though...

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A Choice, a Decision arises "each day" on what the Focus Will Be, on What the Exercise Will Be "This Day"
​Who Has the Golden Ticket?!
I love transparency, and just sharing, putting "my truth" on the table. I'm Not sharing Answers, Sharing My Truth, Sharing My Perspective.  The words "Who Has the Golden Ticket" in my heart speaks volumes.



All of us have many opinions, you should do this, why didn't they do that...



But



Who Has the Golden Ticket?!,
being transparent, we are all a mixing bowl.  A mixing bowl filled with so so many different perspectives, so many opinions.  



This is not shared to be a downer, but to speak transparent, like our Book Opened, it will Close.  These words should have meaning, should allow "us all" to Pause and decide what really matters.  These words should determine our Actions towards others, and the words we choose to speak. 



Who Has the Golden Ticket?!



Yvette "Donyale", why share anything?!
For me "for some", they need to know that no one has a Golden Ticket "eliminating" them from the Chapter Closing. For me, it means a reminder that we all need to Take a Pause, before we. . .




You, I, We travel this journey with many but we are and always will be "accountable to one" and that alone "for some" allows us to choose our Focus, allows us in spite of, to Exercise Daily in Gratitude. 


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​Who Has the Golden Ticket?!


Live Full Today, choosing Peaceful Places, Grateful Places, Love Places
Because...
Again
Again
Again



No Promised Us that Tomorrow Will Look the Same As Today
For this Heart, knowing that allowed awareness of what really mattered, it allowed "this heart" to Rob Regret. 



Many of you, have traveled this journey with me since 2014, "Thank You"  Consider, the words of where it began and why, including all the things that have happened along the journey. 


For those who have been inspired, My Ask, is to share the inspiration with others, whoever is on your heart right now.  This journey is much more than about "you" or "I."  


Live Heart Inspired is an Inspirational Journal to remind us, to "Take a Pause",  the road is much more than about us.  It is a choice.  It is a Focus, it is an Exercise Daily in Gratitude. 



​From a Heart that Knows "Gratitude Robs Regret" 



Live Heart Inspired available in Soft Cover and E-book

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​Who Has the Golden Ticket?!
For Some...

We recognize what really matters "this day"

For Some...

We took what tried to take away our voice, our hope for tomorrow and do something with it, that would be a blessing to someone else.  

This voice remains, Living In My Truth...
Not someone special, someone who made a choice to do something with the destruction that "in an instant" found me. 



If this village has been a blessing, is a blessing, and has provided inspiration and value, My Ask is to bless someone else with bringing awareness.

If and Only if, it has meant or means something to you. 
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Who Has the Golden Ticket?!
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