FEAR is a "cage" to our pursuit of being all that our heart calls out for us to be and or to become.
Do you feel the FEAR? Great. . Move Forward Anyway!
FEAR is a small 4 letter word that can create an epidemic, it can put life on Neutral. A word that creates WAR not just on a Global Stage but in our families, in our workplace, in our homes, even in our own heart.
FEAR is a "cage" to our pursuit of being all that our heart calls out for us to be and or to become.
This week I recognize that this topic, this conversation, this shared perspective will not Eliminate Fear, but instead the goal is to Consider, to Confront it, to Challenge the Premise, Meditating and or Pondering on the Concept, SIMPLY, making an effort to put it under a Spotlight, so together we can gain a perspective on how this 4 letter word can have an effect on our our lives, on our Journey.
Do you feel the FEAR? Great. . Move Forward Anyway!
What do you do when you find out your Greatest Enemy. . .Your GOLIATH to defeat is YOU?
It is so easy to fight someone else, anyone, it's easy when you can lay out the case of what's wrong with someone else. Sharing how they can correct their past mistakes, or how their decisions have disappointed your journey. How their mistakes have hindered your life, held you back or has affected your life.
This post "What do you do when the GIANT you're fighting in Life is YOU?" We take a closer look on how this question is an AWAKENING to our Journey!
Get Connected and please know the Door is Always Open to share your Comments, to share Your Perspective!
For those of you who have read or listened to my past postings. . you are probably saying, Your Topic this week is to "Look Back"?. .are we not the "Embrace the Moment" Community?
ABSOLUTELY, nothing has changed from date of this. . .I'm still a BIG ADVOCATE for embracing the day, embracing the moments. Which while on that subject, means to me to center on not living in the regrets of times past or being so captivated by future plans, that you forget to inhale and exhale in the place you are in right now, to take and be aware of the moment, of the lesson,of the blessing, of the joy, in the gratitude in the right now, in the "today". Which includes THE CHOICES we decide to make, in the now and in the moment.
There are traps and when I think of a trap, I envision a pattern, a "I know better" moment, but then I still do the same things anyway, expecting a different result, really?! Remember, the definition of Insanity is. ."Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result" TRAPS: Really can fall into any area but it is important to recognize the pattern, the enticements, the familiar, the triggers, the "THING" that makes our Tongue speak without thought, that makes our actions operate with Attack and or Leaping into a situation without prior consideration, towards others, (which includes those we know and those we encounter). Taking action in a given situation, without ever considering the CONSEQUENCE. Without ever considering, what is the worst that can happen from my participation? before a decision to take the next step!
I think this is an useful tool for our journey, to "LOOK BACK" because of course, we want to be the "Best Version of Ourselves", right?, we want the best for all that we do and for all of whom may be connected to our lives. When we know better, we do better and we know better, when we know the pattern of those things that can take us off our square, take us away from being the Best Version of Ourselves.
We must stop replaying the tunes that are unhealthy for our lives, no matter what category it falls in, our physical, mental and or spiritual state. WE MUST STOP IT NOW! We are out to create a Full Circle, a Fulfilled Life. A Journey that brings more of what we love to do INTO our life, to do more of what we are passionate about and when we can change old habits that are not beneficial, including a big one "HOW WE REACT" to old triggers, than in that state, we Ultimately are putting ourselves in the driver's seat. We operate masterfully on containing each and every part that tries us, we become alert to all areas that we know we have control in.
I've adopted something that works for me and would like to share it with you:
I TAKE A PAUSE, no matter WHAT THE SITUATION, NO MATTER WHAT THE MOMENT HAS DELIVERED, TO TAKE A PAUSE, and not be quick to react on things said TO ME or things done TO ME (whether it is intentional or not) direct or indirectly, it doesn't matter). "I remind myself in that pause, the phrase, it doesn't matter what happens, it is how I choose to react that matters".
SO I PAUSE: I take time to analyze the full picture and "A BIGGIE" for me is to Consider the Source, to Consider the Intent, to Consider the Pain that might be behind the action or words, or the insecurity of someone else that is delivering the negativity or venom my way and in most cases for me, no action is taken in that moment. I TAKE A PAUSE, for every moment, that to me is taking hold, taking control of the situation, it allows me space, to determine what to do with it, if anything. To seek Wisdom from my Creator, to recognize and to adopt "LESS is always, always MORE".
Traps come in many forms, in how we speak to others, which can deliver hostility or offense, in how we handle our money (knowing exactly where we are and accountable to daily decisions we make with it), in how we make commitments or take on the agenda of others, obligated to philosophies that are not our own. The list really is endless and it varies from one to the next.
I believe there are alway lessons, there are always cliff notes to the chapters that have already been written in our life. When we take time to look back, to review the notes, to know our triggers, to know our part in falling into the old traps, the old mindset, the old familiars, the unbridled tongue or tone, the do it now and worry about it later attitude. We begin to recognize that we plant seeds on our journey, seeds that will surely grow back into our lives.
Wisdom says to be careful what we plant in our moments, the words we speak, the actions we take because good or bad they grow, they will visit us again, ESPECIALLY, if left unattended, without weeding out those areas before they begin to grow, that they eventually will become our harvest and we find ourselves in the here we go again, the travel around the same mountains again, trapped in the same unhealthy familiar again. How many times is really our decision to make!
Take a look back, to recognize the Trap up ahead, so this time it will be a matter of stepping over the land mine and not falling on it AGAIN. To be cautious and conscious of not being Blown to pieces, all over again. Some pieces need to be removed forever and some puzzle pieces we need to stop, we need to stop, we need to stop putting together, allowing them in our lives again.
What are yours? What actions can you take in the moment, today, to be aware, to recognize the pattern, to know the triggers, so that YOU, can operate on a new playing field of, "Not This Time, been there, done that and I'm finished with it! That trap has been demolished and it has been destroyed".
Together, I believe, I'm determined, that we will enjoy the Journey, the Journey, is this gift "called Life", yes and that includes, all the challenges that will visit us on occasion, but now we have the foundation and we know the pattern and we now choose to be in the driver's seat, operating as a leader, in the areas that we can control.
TAKE A LOOK BACK TO RECOGNIZE THE TRAP UP AHEAD
That will leave us more room for Embracing more Moments, for Experiencing more often the Gratitude of Today, to be Thankful for the Here and Now.
The definition that fits our topic best, found online at Merriam-Webster.com
Thorn: something that causes distress or irritation - often used in the phrase thorn in one's side.
For our Journey, we need to remove, to confront, to address those areas that we can control, you know the ones that by definition cause distress and irritation, we'll even throw in the mix frustration. You know, those "pesky" areas that linger in our thoughts and travel alongside us until addressed or confronted. They will travel with us until we strategize a Plan to eliminate or modify what they are in our life.
THE THORN LIST:
This is an awful thorn, it takes up unnecessary space, it is filled or stacked with who knows what?! Even if it is stacked with clear storage containers, with our without labels, what in the world is really in them? Is this stuff that we really need to have around? Is it boxes filled with things that someone else could put to use? Is there ever an intention to use it ourselves? Boxes, Boxes, Boxes in our closets or in cubby spaces, filled with clothes? filled with important papers? Most of the time we don't what kind of clothes; are they to small, to tight, which translated means it will never be worn again. WHAT DAY CAN WE SCHEDULE THIS? Time to pull this Thorn. Donate it somewhere or put it to use, the point, Sort and Decide and at least label exactly what is in it? Now you don't have to guess what is in that storage or worst buy an item you already own.
Time continues to be spent, whether we are productive or not. Are we drifters, are we map travelers, are we focused? Do we have a vision? Do we have a Pursuit or a Plan?
Time to pull this Thorn and to know where we are right now and where we are planning to go. To decide, What do we need to implement and what do we need to let go of.
Time to pull this Thorn. No more procrastination, remember, even small steps are great, it is a start. Walking every day, around your neighborhood, local school or park track, indoor shopping mall walk, can make a huge difference physically and mentally. The Point, get that body moving and to do something, to do what you can do, based on your stamina and physical ability. NOTE: You should always consult with your doctor first, especially if physical activity has been minimal or none, they can suggest where to start based on your physical state.
I've provided a few thorns, a few areas, now it is your turn to evaluate your own Thorns, together lets start somewhere. Who needs New Year Resolutions, 10 steps to this or 12 steps for that, we just decide to Start Now. Tomorrow is a NEW DAY, A NEW BEGINNING, A NEW OPPORTUNITY, A NEW DAY TO START OVER, TO REVISE, the decisions we make today will determine our road ahead.
There are STEPS to anything that we want to accomplish but TO KNOW is not enough, we have to become DOERS, we have to TAKE ACTION, and even the smallest of steps can bring relief. We need the PLAN so that we know that our efforts are moving in the right direction based on the destination we have in sight. It brings REWARD when we set our goal to achieve certain things and when we track our activity, it ENCOURAGES us to continue to travel forward.
I hear. . .don't we already do that? WE DO, without ever noticing, without ever recognizing, how vital that one component is. . .that our very existence, is dependent on that functioning.
TAKE A MOMENT AND JUST BREATHE
While driving, I was listening to an Audio Book on CD, which I do very often and I find great joy in. A Quick Side Note to share: I recommend for those who are Multi-Taskers and on paper your life would show that you are extremely busy or have a very hectic schedule, AUDIO BOOKS, are a great way to take in new material, while zooming around town. A great way to energize your soul. This is a great site to check out for AUDIO BOOKS, they carry a large volume of titles (an Amazon company, I'm not an affiliate, just sharing a great resource).
HBBA Think Tank Thursdays centers on posting and sharing something that Empowers, something that Encourages, a shared Perspective for our Journey. This community, Helping Build Bridges Across was created and is founded on having a place for people to share the Journey, to share the Experience, people who seek more time, of doing more of what they love to do.
The CD I was listening to, referenced that we actually HOLD OUR BREATH, more often than we realize, it's usually during times of anxiety, and or when pondering something. Times of mental distractions, we actually are not breathing freely, we are in a state of holding our breath.
I decided a few days prior to posting this week, to actually schedule, not so much a certain time of day, but to include a daily time to Take a Moment and Just Breathe. To set aside time and Inhale Deeply and Exhale (of course :)) but slowly, consciously Alert to Breathing. Being conscious of my lungs taking in breaths of air and releasing them.
Life is Funny, we spend a lot of time running, of what I like to call "Running to the Next Chapter", what we are working on OR what is working on us. BUT it always seems that life is living on the next page and because of that so often the page we are living in TODAY gets missed.
I heard a Great Definition on "True Freedom". . .
I have adopted this "Taking a Moment and Just Breathe" to be added to my daily routine, taking a moment and Just Breathe.
This week I wanted to share what I personally found:
Take a moment to JUST BREATHE, to BE ALERT to what you do, BE ALERT to what you have SURROUNDING YOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW.
When is the last time you had a good laugh? The belly hurting, eye watering type of laugh? How did it make you feel? In those times for me, it is the greatest feeling of joy. There is no other focus or concern, just a good feeling of shared silliness, just plain funny, a room filled with laughter.
For Our Journey. . We Can Build on that Premise. . .How?
One of the areas that I most enjoy, is not taking everything so seriously. Creating an environment for myself, that looks at things through a colored lens. Seeking ways to de-stress from a situation or from a moment.
Taking a Pause before I react if something is said or done that hits a nerve. I purposely Pause and then from there, I decide if it deserves a Reaction or maybe on Purpose I choose to not comment or to become involved.
Even if the scenario was one that was Personal or Intended to be hurtful, I still have the driver's seat, when I choose how to react.
. . .My Viewpoint is, "IT IS NOT WHAT HAPPENS TO ME, IT IS HOW I CHOOSE TO REACT THAT MATTERS"
That is a powerful state of being.
For me as a Woman of Faith, my Perspective is what can I take from this moment, what can I learn from it. What asset or strength can be gained from it. That to me is being in the driver's seat. What can I Personally do to assist making the situation less stressful for all parties involved AROUND IT. To decide to take from it and be prepared, along my journey to assist someone else who may find the moment, the situation, familiar. What words of Wisdom and Strength can I avail myself of, in and during my own situation, my own challenges, that will prepare me to pass along support and encouragement to someone else.
When you CHOOSE to INTERNALIZE every situation, every thing, every statement, every glance your way or condensing comment spoken to you, when you choose to allow the penetration of hurtful words or actions, then you are signing up for external things to become your guide, to distract your life, your actions, TO SET THE RULES FOR YOUR JOURNEY. You are helping to build boundaries, to build walls around, what is possible for your journey. YOU HAVE BECOME an accessory to putting your life, your journey in a box and limits are being set by external extremities (actions and words of others).
For the next 7 days, 30 days, for me a lifetime. . to challenge ourselves to live as if. .
We wear a "silicone" vest, we are all "buttered up" and nothing can stick to us. That would be a POWERFUL state of being. That would put the person or situation to stand alone in their own mud, their own emotional venom.
While situations, require actions, require plans, we are in the driver's seat and we will decide but it will be from our INTERNAL state of being and not from external distractions.
This seems to be a good place to mention. . to be careful who you allow to speak into your life. Consider the source, consider their life, their experience, their environment. Are they visionary, are they open to creativity, are they non-judgemental? ARE THEY QUALIFIED TO SPEAK INTO YOUR LIFE?
YES, some will speak without permission, but even then you can remember you wear silicone, you hear and release. You fill those thoughts, that space with positivity, with wisdom, in my life that includes prayer and meditation. I'm always seeking to hear the voice of my Creator, His Voice, His Wisdom for my journey.
I opened with. . LAUGHTER IS GOOD BECAUSE. . .?
You know what follows. .the question only you can answer:
What can laughter do for your life?
This week to keep it fun and creative, I wanted to share a great article on laughter, which is found at: LAUGHTER IS THE BEST MEDICINE
Feeling Stuck? Find yourself Complacent? Locked in a Box? Feet stuck in the Mud? Distracted? Stagnated ~ No Movement in any Direction? Frustrated to the point that it is hard to Speak, to Smile, to Laugh? I could easily go on, but I believe you get the premise of where this post is heading.
What great ideas do you have? What have you started time and time again and then life distracts the plan? What's written down or doodled on every piece of blank paper? What image, what plan, is in your mind all the time? What is inside of you that the world is waiting to be introduced to? What are you Passionate about? What drives you?
I heard it said and I agree, "I didn't say it would be easy, it will be work, but it is so worth it!"
If this sounds familiar, join the Journey, of "Just Do". Just do it, just try it, try something, try anything that moves the chess piece to the next space. Find the lesson in the Revisions, find the lessons in the Eraser and the Start Again and the "been there, tried that" and just move forward. When you have the mindset to NOT QUIT, the next move could be the door to your destination, to what you dream about, to what you have set goals for, what your Vision is for your life.
. . .is it so easy to work hard for a paycheck?, or for the dreams of someone else? and not put the same effort into our own dreams or vision for our life. The same effort into pursuing our passion. WE all have to support our lives, which is a given, it is the "WE DO WHAT WE HAVE TO DO" factor, but what should be included, is working on "DOING MORE OF WHAT WE LOVE TO DO", with the goal having the percentage of time being higher on the side of our passion, on our place of fulfillment.
The point is that when Employed, even Self-Employed with a business that you are half-hearted about, you are an employee, your time is invested to do a certain amount of something to receive and to maintain the necessities of life. Life is driving you.
How would life be, if what you are invested into, work hard for, even including the Plan B that has the potential to become Plan A, are invested into it and committed to traveling the distance to arrive to the destination that you see. A Life committed to Not Quitting or Settling for Just Anything? Are you willing to do the work? Are you Motivated to reach what lives inside your heart? Are you swayed by having a Pep Rally of Supporters or Can you Move forward by the drive inside of you? Questions only You can answer.
Those questions are the. .What makes the difference in reaching our Personal Mountain Tops. Why waste energy, why waste time, conversation, monetary investment, if you know you don't have it in you. Find out if the work is worth it, if the answer is "YES", get to it, do it, get started now. You can't reach the landing, if you are not willing to take the first step.
It is the Our Mindset, we need to See it (to have Vision), we need to Feed our Heart and Mind on the food that drives us, to inundate with materials that support the process, that keeps us on the journey of what we see in our heart.
Whose Journey are you Traveling? At the finish line, will the review be satisfying? It is never too late and it is not determined by age, even if you are at a crossroad where you feel that you aren't at the level you wanted, or didn't pursue what was in your heart, you have a TREASURE Box of Wisdom. You speak from a life traveled, your experience uniquely your own. You can offer positivity, wisdom, lessons learned, giving it into the life of someone else. Your words are seeds that can be sown into lives forever, seeds that grow into a harvest of the lives of many others. Words that can be passed through generations. That can be very satisfying, very fulfilling, to give wings to someone else to fly.
to Pursue, Ready to Join the Journey of "JUST DO"?
I won't promise you that it will be successful out of the gate, or on your first try, I'll even add that what you start may finish with a different pattern, a revised plan. I will also share to expect "Challenge", to expect "Resistance", not Maybe, not if, but to Expect those appointments, so when they arrive, it is No Surprise, it is SIMPLY, step over and continue to take another step, to move another Chess Piece.
There are days that are weighted, days of thought overload of "Why, am I pursuing this or that", but with all that being stated, if you were living in your Vision of what you see for your life, the idea life, the idea experiences for you, WOULD THE PRICE BE WORTH IT TO PAY?
IF YOU WERE LIVING IT AND YOUR SOUL, YOUR SPIRIT WAS FULFILLED, WOULD IT BE WORTH IT?
In the realm of living life fulfilled, it represents to me, living life with purpose. Living life sharing our gifts and talents that can be an asset to someone else. Knowing who we are and being willing to give ourselves away, knowing what we offer can offer joy, encouragement, empowerment into the lives of someone else. A life providing benefits and not liabilities. A life that becomes A Statement, a road map of what is possible.
Would the work and the effort be worth it?
When you operate with Purpose and your work and effort has shown that it was worth it. How could that feed into the lives around you? What could it mean to future generations? Who could you help? Who could you encourage? How could your life, "Make a Difference"? How could you support and build in your Community or Join In a Movement or Cause that drives you?
What is life if we live it half fulfilled, or end on the path of "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda". What is the Ultimate Goal, where do you see yourself traveling? If you don't plan, how do you know when you get there? If you don't FAIL, how do you know what to Revise, what to Do Different? When you don't Pursue, how do you know what to Add, what to Subtract, what to be Alert To?
You may have a Road Map and I applaud You, You may be operating in the Arena of Fulfillment of Your Vision, Your Dream, "NOW" and I Celebrate You. I hope you Pay it Forward, to help someone else along the way. To give to others what you've found you needed as you Traveled along the way.
If you are reading this and you don't have a clue,or you are living life with the glass half empty feeling, get in gear, find yourself. Find what brings your heart, your spirit, your soul the most joy? It is usually attached to those things you do or have done that brings you the greatest joy, that you could do for endless hours. Fill up, feed on positive environments, get around those who are moving forward, who are pursuing their passion, read or listen to books that support your Journey, Your Vision.
I opened with, "What's the Worst that can Happen?"
What would be your answer to that question related to your own Journey?
Enjoy the Process, Expect the Work and Celebrate the Journey from Now to the Finish Line.