For those of you who have read or listened to my past postings. . you are probably saying, Your Topic this week is to "Look Back"?. .are we not the "Embrace the Moment" Community?
ABSOLUTELY, nothing has changed from date of this. . .I'm still a BIG ADVOCATE for embracing the day, embracing the moments. Which while on that subject, means to me to center on not living in the regrets of times past or being so captivated by future plans, that you forget to inhale and exhale in the place you are in right now, to take and be aware of the moment, of the lesson,of the blessing, of the joy, in the gratitude in the right now, in the "today". Which includes THE CHOICES we decide to make, in the now and in the moment.
There are traps and when I think of a trap, I envision a pattern, a "I know better" moment, but then I still do the same things anyway, expecting a different result, really?! Remember, the definition of Insanity is. ."Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result" TRAPS: Really can fall into any area but it is important to recognize the pattern, the enticements, the familiar, the triggers, the "THING" that makes our Tongue speak without thought, that makes our actions operate with Attack and or Leaping into a situation without prior consideration, towards others, (which includes those we know and those we encounter). Taking action in a given situation, without ever considering the CONSEQUENCE. Without ever considering, what is the worst that can happen from my participation? before a decision to take the next step!
I think this is an useful tool for our journey, to "LOOK BACK" because of course, we want to be the "Best Version of Ourselves", right?, we want the best for all that we do and for all of whom may be connected to our lives. When we know better, we do better and we know better, when we know the pattern of those things that can take us off our square, take us away from being the Best Version of Ourselves.
We must stop replaying the tunes that are unhealthy for our lives, no matter what category it falls in, our physical, mental and or spiritual state. WE MUST STOP IT NOW! We are out to create a Full Circle, a Fulfilled Life. A Journey that brings more of what we love to do INTO our life, to do more of what we are passionate about and when we can change old habits that are not beneficial, including a big one "HOW WE REACT" to old triggers, than in that state, we Ultimately are putting ourselves in the driver's seat. We operate masterfully on containing each and every part that tries us, we become alert to all areas that we know we have control in.
I've adopted something that works for me and would like to share it with you:
I TAKE A PAUSE, no matter WHAT THE SITUATION, NO MATTER WHAT THE MOMENT HAS DELIVERED, TO TAKE A PAUSE, and not be quick to react on things said TO ME or things done TO ME (whether it is intentional or not) direct or indirectly, it doesn't matter). "I remind myself in that pause, the phrase, it doesn't matter what happens, it is how I choose to react that matters".
SO I PAUSE: I take time to analyze the full picture and "A BIGGIE" for me is to Consider the Source, to Consider the Intent, to Consider the Pain that might be behind the action or words, or the insecurity of someone else that is delivering the negativity or venom my way and in most cases for me, no action is taken in that moment. I TAKE A PAUSE, for every moment, that to me is taking hold, taking control of the situation, it allows me space, to determine what to do with it, if anything. To seek Wisdom from my Creator, to recognize and to adopt "LESS is always, always MORE".
Traps come in many forms, in how we speak to others, which can deliver hostility or offense, in how we handle our money (knowing exactly where we are and accountable to daily decisions we make with it), in how we make commitments or take on the agenda of others, obligated to philosophies that are not our own. The list really is endless and it varies from one to the next.
I believe there are alway lessons, there are always cliff notes to the chapters that have already been written in our life. When we take time to look back, to review the notes, to know our triggers, to know our part in falling into the old traps, the old mindset, the old familiars, the unbridled tongue or tone, the do it now and worry about it later attitude. We begin to recognize that we plant seeds on our journey, seeds that will surely grow back into our lives.
Wisdom says to be careful what we plant in our moments, the words we speak, the actions we take because good or bad they grow, they will visit us again, ESPECIALLY, if left unattended, without weeding out those areas before they begin to grow, that they eventually will become our harvest and we find ourselves in the here we go again, the travel around the same mountains again, trapped in the same unhealthy familiar again. How many times is really our decision to make!
Take a look back, to recognize the Trap up ahead, so this time it will be a matter of stepping over the land mine and not falling on it AGAIN. To be cautious and conscious of not being Blown to pieces, all over again. Some pieces need to be removed forever and some puzzle pieces we need to stop, we need to stop, we need to stop putting together, allowing them in our lives again.
What are yours? What actions can you take in the moment, today, to be aware, to recognize the pattern, to know the triggers, so that YOU, can operate on a new playing field of, "Not This Time, been there, done that and I'm finished with it! That trap has been demolished and it has been destroyed".
Together, I believe, I'm determined, that we will enjoy the Journey, the Journey, is this gift "called Life", yes and that includes, all the challenges that will visit us on occasion, but now we have the foundation and we know the pattern and we now choose to be in the driver's seat, operating as a leader, in the areas that we can control.
TAKE A LOOK BACK TO RECOGNIZE THE TRAP UP AHEAD
That will leave us more room for Embracing more Moments, for Experiencing more often the Gratitude of Today, to be Thankful for the Here and Now.
The definition that fits our topic best, found online at Merriam-Webster.com
Thorn: something that causes distress or irritation - often used in the phrase thorn in one's side.
For our Journey, we need to remove, to confront, to address those areas that we can control, you know the ones that by definition cause distress and irritation, we'll even throw in the mix frustration. You know, those "pesky" areas that linger in our thoughts and travel alongside us until addressed or confronted. They will travel with us until we strategize a Plan to eliminate or modify what they are in our life.
THE THORN LIST:
This is an awful thorn, it takes up unnecessary space, it is filled or stacked with who knows what?! Even if it is stacked with clear storage containers, with our without labels, what in the world is really in them? Is this stuff that we really need to have around? Is it boxes filled with things that someone else could put to use? Is there ever an intention to use it ourselves? Boxes, Boxes, Boxes in our closets or in cubby spaces, filled with clothes? filled with important papers? Most of the time we don't what kind of clothes; are they to small, to tight, which translated means it will never be worn again. WHAT DAY CAN WE SCHEDULE THIS? Time to pull this Thorn. Donate it somewhere or put it to use, the point, Sort and Decide and at least label exactly what is in it? Now you don't have to guess what is in that storage or worst buy an item you already own.
Time continues to be spent, whether we are productive or not. Are we drifters, are we map travelers, are we focused? Do we have a vision? Do we have a Pursuit or a Plan?
Time to pull this Thorn and to know where we are right now and where we are planning to go. To decide, What do we need to implement and what do we need to let go of.
Time to pull this Thorn. No more procrastination, remember, even small steps are great, it is a start. Walking every day, around your neighborhood, local school or park track, indoor shopping mall walk, can make a huge difference physically and mentally. The Point, get that body moving and to do something, to do what you can do, based on your stamina and physical ability. NOTE: You should always consult with your doctor first, especially if physical activity has been minimal or none, they can suggest where to start based on your physical state.
I've provided a few thorns, a few areas, now it is your turn to evaluate your own Thorns, together lets start somewhere. Who needs New Year Resolutions, 10 steps to this or 12 steps for that, we just decide to Start Now. Tomorrow is a NEW DAY, A NEW BEGINNING, A NEW OPPORTUNITY, A NEW DAY TO START OVER, TO REVISE, the decisions we make today will determine our road ahead.
There are STEPS to anything that we want to accomplish but TO KNOW is not enough, we have to become DOERS, we have to TAKE ACTION, and even the smallest of steps can bring relief. We need the PLAN so that we know that our efforts are moving in the right direction based on the destination we have in sight. It brings REWARD when we set our goal to achieve certain things and when we track our activity, it ENCOURAGES us to continue to travel forward.
I hear. . .don't we already do that? WE DO, without ever noticing, without ever recognizing, how vital that one component is. . .that our very existence, is dependent on that functioning.
TAKE A MOMENT AND JUST BREATHE
While driving, I was listening to an Audio Book on CD, which I do very often and I find great joy in. A Quick Side Note to share: I recommend for those who are Multi-Taskers and on paper your life would show that you are extremely busy or have a very hectic schedule, AUDIO BOOKS, are a great way to take in new material, while zooming around town. A great way to energize your soul. This is a great site to check out for AUDIO BOOKS, they carry a large volume of titles (an Amazon company, I'm not an affiliate, just sharing a great resource).
HBBA Think Tank Thursdays centers on posting and sharing something that Empowers, something that Encourages, a shared Perspective for our Journey. This community, Helping Build Bridges Across was created and is founded on having a place for people to share the Journey, to share the Experience, people who seek more time, of doing more of what they love to do.
The CD I was listening to, referenced that we actually HOLD OUR BREATH, more often than we realize, it's usually during times of anxiety, and or when pondering something. Times of mental distractions, we actually are not breathing freely, we are in a state of holding our breath.
I decided a few days prior to posting this week, to actually schedule, not so much a certain time of day, but to include a daily time to Take a Moment and Just Breathe. To set aside time and Inhale Deeply and Exhale (of course :)) but slowly, consciously Alert to Breathing. Being conscious of my lungs taking in breaths of air and releasing them.
Life is Funny, we spend a lot of time running, of what I like to call "Running to the Next Chapter", what we are working on OR what is working on us. BUT it always seems that life is living on the next page and because of that so often the page we are living in TODAY gets missed.
I heard a Great Definition on "True Freedom". . .
I have adopted this "Taking a Moment and Just Breathe" to be added to my daily routine, taking a moment and Just Breathe.
This week I wanted to share what I personally found:
Take a moment to JUST BREATHE, to BE ALERT to what you do, BE ALERT to what you have SURROUNDING YOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW.
When is the last time you had a good laugh? The belly hurting, eye watering type of laugh? How did it make you feel? In those times for me, it is the greatest feeling of joy. There is no other focus or concern, just a good feeling of shared silliness, just plain funny, a room filled with laughter.
For Our Journey. . We Can Build on that Premise. . .How?
One of the areas that I most enjoy, is not taking everything so seriously. Creating an environment for myself, that looks at things through a colored lens. Seeking ways to de-stress from a situation or from a moment.
Taking a Pause before I react if something is said or done that hits a nerve. I purposely Pause and then from there, I decide if it deserves a Reaction or maybe on Purpose I choose to not comment or to become involved.
Even if the scenario was one that was Personal or Intended to be hurtful, I still have the driver's seat, when I choose how to react.
. . .My Viewpoint is, "IT IS NOT WHAT HAPPENS TO ME, IT IS HOW I CHOOSE TO REACT THAT MATTERS"
That is a powerful state of being.
For me as a Woman of Faith, my Perspective is what can I take from this moment, what can I learn from it. What asset or strength can be gained from it. That to me is being in the driver's seat. What can I Personally do to assist making the situation less stressful for all parties involved AROUND IT. To decide to take from it and be prepared, along my journey to assist someone else who may find the moment, the situation, familiar. What words of Wisdom and Strength can I avail myself of, in and during my own situation, my own challenges, that will prepare me to pass along support and encouragement to someone else.
When you CHOOSE to INTERNALIZE every situation, every thing, every statement, every glance your way or condensing comment spoken to you, when you choose to allow the penetration of hurtful words or actions, then you are signing up for external things to become your guide, to distract your life, your actions, TO SET THE RULES FOR YOUR JOURNEY. You are helping to build boundaries, to build walls around, what is possible for your journey. YOU HAVE BECOME an accessory to putting your life, your journey in a box and limits are being set by external extremities (actions and words of others).
For the next 7 days, 30 days, for me a lifetime. . to challenge ourselves to live as if. .
We wear a "silicone" vest, we are all "buttered up" and nothing can stick to us. That would be a POWERFUL state of being. That would put the person or situation to stand alone in their own mud, their own emotional venom.
While situations, require actions, require plans, we are in the driver's seat and we will decide but it will be from our INTERNAL state of being and not from external distractions.
This seems to be a good place to mention. . to be careful who you allow to speak into your life. Consider the source, consider their life, their experience, their environment. Are they visionary, are they open to creativity, are they non-judgemental? ARE THEY QUALIFIED TO SPEAK INTO YOUR LIFE?
YES, some will speak without permission, but even then you can remember you wear silicone, you hear and release. You fill those thoughts, that space with positivity, with wisdom, in my life that includes prayer and meditation. I'm always seeking to hear the voice of my Creator, His Voice, His Wisdom for my journey.
I opened with. . LAUGHTER IS GOOD BECAUSE. . .?
You know what follows. .the question only you can answer:
What can laughter do for your life?
This week to keep it fun and creative, I wanted to share a great article on laughter, which is found at: LAUGHTER IS THE BEST MEDICINE
Feeling Stuck? Find yourself Complacent? Locked in a Box? Feet stuck in the Mud? Distracted? Stagnated ~ No Movement in any Direction? Frustrated to the point that it is hard to Speak, to Smile, to Laugh? I could easily go on, but I believe you get the premise of where this post is heading.
What great ideas do you have? What have you started time and time again and then life distracts the plan? What's written down or doodled on every piece of blank paper? What image, what plan, is in your mind all the time? What is inside of you that the world is waiting to be introduced to? What are you Passionate about? What drives you?
I heard it said and I agree, "I didn't say it would be easy, it will be work, but it is so worth it!"
If this sounds familiar, join the Journey, of "Just Do". Just do it, just try it, try something, try anything that moves the chess piece to the next space. Find the lesson in the Revisions, find the lessons in the Eraser and the Start Again and the "been there, tried that" and just move forward. When you have the mindset to NOT QUIT, the next move could be the door to your destination, to what you dream about, to what you have set goals for, what your Vision is for your life.
. . .is it so easy to work hard for a paycheck?, or for the dreams of someone else? and not put the same effort into our own dreams or vision for our life. The same effort into pursuing our passion. WE all have to support our lives, which is a given, it is the "WE DO WHAT WE HAVE TO DO" factor, but what should be included, is working on "DOING MORE OF WHAT WE LOVE TO DO", with the goal having the percentage of time being higher on the side of our passion, on our place of fulfillment.
The point is that when Employed, even Self-Employed with a business that you are half-hearted about, you are an employee, your time is invested to do a certain amount of something to receive and to maintain the necessities of life. Life is driving you.
How would life be, if what you are invested into, work hard for, even including the Plan B that has the potential to become Plan A, are invested into it and committed to traveling the distance to arrive to the destination that you see. A Life committed to Not Quitting or Settling for Just Anything? Are you willing to do the work? Are you Motivated to reach what lives inside your heart? Are you swayed by having a Pep Rally of Supporters or Can you Move forward by the drive inside of you? Questions only You can answer.
Those questions are the. .What makes the difference in reaching our Personal Mountain Tops. Why waste energy, why waste time, conversation, monetary investment, if you know you don't have it in you. Find out if the work is worth it, if the answer is "YES", get to it, do it, get started now. You can't reach the landing, if you are not willing to take the first step.
It is the Our Mindset, we need to See it (to have Vision), we need to Feed our Heart and Mind on the food that drives us, to inundate with materials that support the process, that keeps us on the journey of what we see in our heart.
Whose Journey are you Traveling? At the finish line, will the review be satisfying? It is never too late and it is not determined by age, even if you are at a crossroad where you feel that you aren't at the level you wanted, or didn't pursue what was in your heart, you have a TREASURE Box of Wisdom. You speak from a life traveled, your experience uniquely your own. You can offer positivity, wisdom, lessons learned, giving it into the life of someone else. Your words are seeds that can be sown into lives forever, seeds that grow into a harvest of the lives of many others. Words that can be passed through generations. That can be very satisfying, very fulfilling, to give wings to someone else to fly.
to Pursue, Ready to Join the Journey of "JUST DO"?
I won't promise you that it will be successful out of the gate, or on your first try, I'll even add that what you start may finish with a different pattern, a revised plan. I will also share to expect "Challenge", to expect "Resistance", not Maybe, not if, but to Expect those appointments, so when they arrive, it is No Surprise, it is SIMPLY, step over and continue to take another step, to move another Chess Piece.
There are days that are weighted, days of thought overload of "Why, am I pursuing this or that", but with all that being stated, if you were living in your Vision of what you see for your life, the idea life, the idea experiences for you, WOULD THE PRICE BE WORTH IT TO PAY?
IF YOU WERE LIVING IT AND YOUR SOUL, YOUR SPIRIT WAS FULFILLED, WOULD IT BE WORTH IT?
In the realm of living life fulfilled, it represents to me, living life with purpose. Living life sharing our gifts and talents that can be an asset to someone else. Knowing who we are and being willing to give ourselves away, knowing what we offer can offer joy, encouragement, empowerment into the lives of someone else. A life providing benefits and not liabilities. A life that becomes A Statement, a road map of what is possible.
Would the work and the effort be worth it?
When you operate with Purpose and your work and effort has shown that it was worth it. How could that feed into the lives around you? What could it mean to future generations? Who could you help? Who could you encourage? How could your life, "Make a Difference"? How could you support and build in your Community or Join In a Movement or Cause that drives you?
What is life if we live it half fulfilled, or end on the path of "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda". What is the Ultimate Goal, where do you see yourself traveling? If you don't plan, how do you know when you get there? If you don't FAIL, how do you know what to Revise, what to Do Different? When you don't Pursue, how do you know what to Add, what to Subtract, what to be Alert To?
You may have a Road Map and I applaud You, You may be operating in the Arena of Fulfillment of Your Vision, Your Dream, "NOW" and I Celebrate You. I hope you Pay it Forward, to help someone else along the way. To give to others what you've found you needed as you Traveled along the way.
If you are reading this and you don't have a clue,or you are living life with the glass half empty feeling, get in gear, find yourself. Find what brings your heart, your spirit, your soul the most joy? It is usually attached to those things you do or have done that brings you the greatest joy, that you could do for endless hours. Fill up, feed on positive environments, get around those who are moving forward, who are pursuing their passion, read or listen to books that support your Journey, Your Vision.
I opened with, "What's the Worst that can Happen?"
What would be your answer to that question related to your own Journey?
Enjoy the Process, Expect the Work and Celebrate the Journey from Now to the Finish Line.
I meet some fabulous, sweet, genuine people, most of which appear to be "high on life". Some folks are animated and some are more serene, but a common denominator appears to be all is well and they appear to be at peace with life, faces that show a smile.
The Word "Appearance". . .really is a loaded word when you reflect on it.
Most of us are conditioned from childhood to have proper etiquette in public, which I do agree with, but because of it, I believe we learn early to wear masks. How often are we greeted or greet others and the general question is. . "Hi, how are you? With a response that follows of,
"Good, Great or Fine, Thank You" or something similiar that "all is well with life".
Realistically. . .we can't be a society of greeting each other, which turns into a speech or log of problems and concerns. Talk about misery, we really would be isolated, who would chance a meet and greet like that. . .consistently. We would AVOID each other more, greeting each other would be out of the question in this scenario. It would be to overwhelming and not to mention time consuming.
The proper etiquette spills over into our Family Dynamics and includes those we call dear friends, even with the proclaimed girl's "BFF" or the guy's "ACE", the same holds true. The familiar lines, "All is Well", "Things are Good". A few surface things are shared, after all, these titles come with an understanding of having a trusted, "close" relationship, right? and the rest is smooth sailing, keep it light, right?!
I'm not expecting to walk up to people and have a conversation and they give a journal on what is wrong with life. If you listen or read my posts, you know my nature is take the negatives and find the positives, to take a challenge head on, doing the things I can and seeking God's Wisdom for the many things I have no control over and having the Faith He will guide me along to the best direction for my Journey.
It is always a CHOICE, to find the Beauty in the Ashes, to see the Sun peeking out in the rain. To find the JOY and to make the effort to input the positive things into my mind, into my heart. There is a saying, the mouth speaks out what the heart is filled with, something like that, so that concludes that what we feed on, is sown into our heart, our mind, and that is what our mouth will naturally speak about.
What is the Point for the Blog Topic this week?
It started with the question; "How Much Pain is Behind a Smile?"
The Point is to become more Aware and to Know that their can be Pain Behind a Smile
The passing of Robin Williams recently is one of many reminders, how the pain can run deeper than the conversation, than the laughter or the smiles being shared. He is a name recognized, which allowed conversation in many circles and on most media, on the subject, but who do we know, that might surround our lives right now and we not recognize the same pain or similar pain could exist behind the smile.
I'm reminded of an acquaintance who killed herself and I actually had seen her a month prior to this horrific incident. I didn't know her personally and our paths only crossed because she was visiting and supporting a family who had recently had a death in their family. I was in attendance for the same reason. She smiled a lot that day and was hugging and supporting the family. She drew my attention because she made the effort to bring food and served what she had prepared. She smiled, she winked (as if to imply, I'm here, it will be okay) and she seemed so alert to hearing others share their grief during that time. In reflection, their were no signs of her apparent pain and her apparent struggles behind her smile. When I heard the news about what happened to her, I wondered if their was something I could have seen, could have asked. If I could have offered an open door by asking, "How are things your way?" Then to listen, to be aware of the words that may have been spoken. I knew she had lost a sibling in a car accident a year prior, so I knew enough that maybe I could have asked.
I can't change Yesterdays, but I can be alert to Today
and to the Tomorrows, along my Journey.
We Live, We Learn and We share our Experience and who knows who it might help along the way. The effort is to be more alert of what we say and what we do.
Maybe, we should all slow down, with those who are closer to us and or associated with us, to ask a genuine question (beyond etiquette), "How are things?". To ask, to listen, to let others know that we care. Many times you realize, if they share, that most challenges in life are familiar and no one holds an exemption pass, but maybe in the asking, maybe in the availability to be alert and to listen, it could be a difference maker in a situation, it could be an opportunity to let someone you know you are there.
Sometimes, a person is not looking for a solution; sometimes in "the Moment", they just need a trusted ear, a place to vent, a confidant for the moment, someone who holds no judgement and can be trusted not to broadcast their business with every person that they know.
Just a Moment. . Just a Moment, for us all to be aware that there could be in that moment,
Pain behind that smile and we all need to "Leave a Little Room".
This week's post is a reminder that so much goes on in the lives of so many. No one is exempt from the Challenges, the Valleys of living life, in walking out our journey. With every path, there will be "Highs" and we will have "Lows" along the Journey. It is called life.
We need to be a little more patient, leave a little more room for the person whose service wasn't the greatest at a dinner out or didn't get the order exactly right, to overlook the cashier who doesn't greet our arrival or wish us a good day. To not get caught up in the rage for the car that cut you off or desperately is trying to get around you in crowded traffic. We need to leave a little more room, to have a little more patience, to make a choice to not get angry or to get upset. It is a choice and who knows maybe those encounters are people on the moment of a breaking apart point, who really knows?!
With those closer to us, our family, our close friends, to leave the same room, maybe even more for the times when their actions or words is out of character, of who you know they are and have been in times past. Room to vent, room to think about their acting out may have been towards you (but 95% of time is not about you), so a little more room. A little more patience, consider for that moment that this behavior is out of character, give out the "No Offense Taken Pass". Allowing the space, allowing the room for that person to get back on track, to get back on and continue there Journey.
When I was preparing this blog earlier in the week, I had a "sciatic nerve" adventure happening. The funny part when I didn't feel it, "all seemed normal". Then I turned a certain way or walk a few steps, and a sharp pain in a place you can't rub or ibuprofen away, quickly became, a question of. . .what in the world is this?? I reflected on days when their was no physical discomfort, a normal day. A day filled with a list of "to dos" and you follow through and do what you need to get it done. Pretty simple stuff! That NERVE PAIN, those moments of discomfort to the point of not wanting to walk, allowed me to reflect, how the smallest thing in our life can change, a moment in time that can challenge your "normal" routine. Can turn your ROUTINE. . upside down.
Immediately, without warning or notice, the structure, the stage of life, is now set with a different way of doing what needs to be done, a different direction, a new way of moving, or trying to function with the underline goal of finding that known comfort and the desire to return to a normal state, the term, the song floats in your thoughts of "I used to be"?!
The adventure of this journey is what can be found in this pain, in the discomfort?; it brought a reflection ~ that which I like to call a P & R time (pause and reflect), it brought appreciation and gratitude of what I had and had easily taken for granted, getting up, sitting down, walking.
It brought a connection of those who live with this constantly and or those who have it much worse physically, with more than "time" required to function "normally".
It allowed a space to find creativity to do what needs to be done, but now with new eyes, a new perspective, a search of new doors that are wide open and requires, a quiet space to listen and to receive all that surrounds me. It all came through that moment of discomfort.
My remedy, as with most things that challenge my life, is to recognize when I'm a new player to this game, to know there is a route, a lighted direction to find my way through the challenge. In this case, physical discomfort was the challenge, so in that moment, the first step was my mind, my way of thinking, my perspective on the discomfort.
I made the decision and the thought for me was, "I don't plan to, I have no intention of camping on this site, no rubbing of wombs, no Kumbaya. This state is temporary". That really is just who I am and how I face most things. It is just how God created me. This is a moment, I take the lesson from it of being Grateful, to focus on all the things in life that I'm grateful for. Alongside this mindset, that I chose to operate from (you have to make a choice on how you decide to react, I believe in all areas of life), I also did my stretches (took action in areas that I could move in) to relieve the pressure, that I knew in time would help.
The pressure point is what set the stage for this week's blog of "I take a lot for granted" and of course I included YOU, to say "We" take a lot for granted. For anything we have access to someone, somewhere does not and that list can be endless.
If you have experienced the death of a loved one, attended a funeral or memorial service, you have a moment of reflection. You have an awareness of what is really important to this gift we call life. You reflect on the last conversations, or visits, or shared events with that loved one. All the things you said and thought about but didn't say. For some it is a thought of "I wish we I had or we had" or it could be a thought of "I'm grateful, that life was shared and celebrated".
You also weigh out those things that surround you that really don't hold the same value or level of importance as in times past.
The same is true, if you've ever went to a doctor's appointment for your routine visit. Your normal tests, now shows something that requires a closer look, now a routine visit becomes a moment, a reflected. . ummmm?! In that moment, you have to put your mind to work, your spirit and take on that everything will be fine. Pray and keep moving. The end result the tests shows nothing wrong, but during that time you again recognized the precious gift we call life.
A child, a spouse, a parent, a dear friend, faces a crisis or is hurt or facing a life challenge, you find yourself back in Gratitude during and at the end of these life challenges. You find yourself humbled and you recognize quickly how much control you really have?!
You recognize this Gift we call Life.
This blog is for a PAUSE & REFLECT, a quiet moment, to take in this Gift we have called Life. To appreciate the Glass Half Full. The power of taking on a life challenge that we don't sign up for but we decide to find the Ray of Light in those moments, asking what can we learn, what can we share, what can we add to make those moments an Asset and not a Liability in our life and or into the life of someone else. It is not what happens, it is how we react that is the power.
This would be another benefit of starting a Gratitude Journal, a daily reflection. It can be long inserts, it can be a sentence, an image, a photo, as the AUTHOR, we can decide, but this would aid and keep us in that state of appreciating this Gift we call life and you never know where this all might lead in our life or into the life of someone else.